Welcome R J S, as a child and youth I also experienced some sort of lucid dreaming/ OBEs and sleep paralysis. I also decided that I would die at a certain age which I worked out using family medical history and dividing/multiplying by 23! ( Thanks RA Wilson and WS Burroughs). It's never too late to join in when it's infinite where you are going. Glad you have an experienced confidant to work with. Remember when you draw the death card in tarot that it is not to be taken literally!