You sound like myself.

I cannot say what psychedelics will or will not do for you or whether or not you should take them, I can only relate my own experiences.

I have learned a lot from ayahuasca, and if it is answers you seek, you'll get plenty from aya. This isn't to say that you can ask it a question and it will reply, it has never really worked like that for me. For me, aya has answered questions that are relevant to my life that I may have been wondering about for a while, but didn't necessarily ask. As another member put it, sometimes the answer can render the question invalid, or something to that effect. I haven't been able to learn very much from vaporized dmt though, but many have. It seems to "fast" for me to learn, but it is still fun. Maybe one day...

One of the things that I am in the process of learning is love and understanding of other people.  While this may put me more "incomprehensible" to them, if they were to know, it puts them more comprehensible to me. I find it easier to connect to people if you know where they are coming from and if you approach the situation with love and understanding. If this is what you mean by "groundedness" then I am learning to be grounded. This usually happens for me, in the afterglow of the experience. During the experience, grounded is not an adjective that could describe it.

This is in reference to ayahuasca; every enthogen is different. I have experienced the "rabbit hole of thought" on other enthogens, but ayahuasca seems more like being dunked in an ocean of feelings-of-communication. I tend to keep my rational mind throughout, there isn't really a mindfuck factor like I get from LSD or mushrooms. Others may have different experiences though.

Hope I helped you at least a teeny tiny bit.

Do your research and listen to others on this forum; most know far more than me and are happy to help.