..i think it can be partly belief system orientated..in that there are systems of thought/focus to look beyond all separate aspects (including parts of ourselves which can seem separate) ..it's all part of a larger reality..however, yes in many cultures this issue is taken very seriously..

in such a subjective area, and without being directly familiar with your situation, i can only make the briefest of general comments...from some of those culture's p.o.v.....yes, anger will make it worse, but so will generosity...it doesn't matter what 'it' wants, it should be asked without reservation to go!..but also, don't just clean up your house, clean up all aspects of your life (diet, substances, thoughts, and habits, as suggested above) ..and find a force that's stronger...whether that's love, light, ancestors, god, guides...and be very careful of set, setting, timing, and frequency of usage of DMT..

just don't fear..you have come to a challenge...a cleaning job...you'll get through it..

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