There's a place for PM's. I've PM'ed a few people here--sometimes there are questions that would be "rude" "in public." I think many times that people feel freer to say things in PMs than they do on a forum. So far, people here have been very warm and friendly to me in PMs.

That being said, I agree with the consensus: NEVER assume that the things discussed here will be forever anonymous. It doesn't matter to me anyway--although I say MANY true things, anything I say involving illegal things are 100% fantasy play...