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I do this. And this is exactly what I don't get in my head.

Why don't you say this?

...and this is a rethorical question. Cause the answer is obvious.

You don't say that cause you are afraid that the other person says "i fancy you not".
But hey...this is the worst that could happen.
Why are you afraid of this? Must have to do something with desire and rejection and stuff like this. But in reality this is absolutly childish behaviour...ok...or in my reality at least.

But I think that grown ups should be able to deal with stuff like this. And if you are acting grown up and the other person is acting grown up too, what bad could happen?

If one hopes for the best outcome, but is prepared for the worst outcome, there's nothing that can go wrong.

Imho much more things can go wrong when people misunderstand you, cause one leaves to much room for interpretation or uses woolly words.

I would find it much more frustating to do a "mating dance" over hours and hours whithout beeing concrete and THEN get rejected after all this "work".

But yeah, I know, people are in deed different. But...but...it could be so simple. *ggg*

<blockquote data-quote="steppa" data-source="post: 3721488" data-attributes="member: 18894">I do this. And this is exactly what I don&#039;t get in my head. Why don&#039;t you say this? ...and this is a rethorical question. Cause the answer is obvious. You don&#039;t say that cause you are afraid that the other person says &quot;i fancy you not&quot;. But hey...this is the worst that could happen. Why are you afraid of this? Must have to do something with desire and rejection and stuff like this. But in reality this is absolutly childish behaviour...ok...or in my reality at least. But I think that grown ups should be able to deal with stuff like this. And if you are acting grown up and the other person is acting grown up too, what bad could happen?If one hopes for the best outcome, but is prepared for the worst outcome, there&#039;s nothing that can go wrong. Imho much more things can go wrong when people misunderstand you, cause one leaves to much room for interpretation or uses woolly words.I would find it much more frustating to do a &quot;mating dance&quot; over hours and hours whithout beeing concrete and THEN get rejected after all this &quot;work&quot;.But yeah, I know, people are in deed different. But...but...it could be so simple. *ggg*</blockquote>

[QUOTE="steppa, post: 3721488, member: 18894"] I do this. And this is exactly what I don't get in my head. Why don't you say this? ...and this is a rethorical question. Cause the answer is obvious. You don't say that cause you are afraid that the other person says "i fancy you not". But hey...this is the worst that could happen. Why are you afraid of this? Must have to do something with desire and rejection and stuff like this. But in reality this is absolutly childish behaviour...ok...or in my reality at least. But I think that grown ups should be able to deal with stuff like this. And if you are acting grown up and the other person is acting grown up too, what bad could happen? If one hopes for the best outcome, but is prepared for the worst outcome, there's nothing that can go wrong. Imho much more things can go wrong when people misunderstand you, cause one leaves to much room for interpretation or uses woolly words. I would find it much more frustating to do a "mating dance" over hours and hours whithout beeing concrete and THEN get rejected after all this "work". But yeah, I know, people are in deed different. But...but...it could be so simple. *ggg* [/QUOTE]