thisformihold said:
I think you're taking this the wrong way parallel. Oftentimes caring comes in many different forms. The caring of a parent may be expressed as anger towards their child when they do something that puts them in a compromising situation. They're not angry because they don't love them. They're angry because they do love them, and want them to stay alive!
I for one did read your whole post. The two things that concerned me were that fact that you went out in public and used it and the fact that an unknown plant was smoked. You can say it was okay because it was four in the morning and there was no one around, but I feel like that's a risky situation to put yourself in. Smoking an unknown substance: risky.
We don't promote that sort of behavior around here. Bottom line. Is that elitist? I don't think so. This is a community and we have to think about it as a whole. We don't want negative public opinion. We have a responsibility as a community to promote safe use and mitigate any negative perceptions of DMT. I really don't see the argument here. We don't want to see anyone getting hurt and we don't want any heat brought onto this community.
No one is mad at you parallel. We just want you to come back from your journeys. Stop taking it so personally and move on. These are the rules of this forum. It is a voluntary community. If you don't agree with them then perhaps this isn't the place for you.
I do agree that perhaps some members were a little harsh in the manners they went about dealing with the situation, but like a concerned parent it's coming from a place of love.
I know that I'm new here but this community by and large is full of intelligent and helpful people, and I respect that and want to keep it that way. Respect is a two-way street.
I could tell who had really read the post and who had not, it really just offended me that most people weren't bothering to read more than the first paragraph of my post, and then commenting about all the things I did wrong, as they were trying to tell me I was wrong I was also being insulted while people were trying to tell me that I do not know things, and my conceptions are not valid, while theirs are.
I have written an apology letter to van d art, and I'm working on a better apology for the nexus community entirely, I wasn't trying to claim that going outside without a sitter or smoking an unknown plant without a sitter weren't entirely irresponsible actions, because they definitely were, I was trying to clarify the physical events of the situation to those that didn't understand what had happened because of someone suggesting that I had administered an entire 100 mg dose to someone who had never tried it before, when he really only smoked about 50 mg and had tried it several times before, just hadn't been to hyperspace, things like that.
Up until last night I've been nothing but respectful of the views and experiences of everyone on the nexus, We all perform dangerous actions all the time, simply talking about it here, ordering root bark, reading vague teks and playing with lye and heating up naptha, mixing drugs with yet unknown reactions, etc... but for the most part these things are encouraged to be carried out in the safest manner possible, without going out and buying tons of expensive lab stuffs.
one of the things that annoys me so much about being jumped on this time is it was really the title that I believe created most of the negativity, in a way saying "no you moron, it is not a party drug in any way." but I meant to reference the sort of jovial spiritual party experience I have when I'm not dosing alone.
I say this because I posted a similar thread about a month ago about when I smoked dmt alone and ran off into the woods. I was pretty heavily under the influence of dmt when that occurred, and I dosed again when I laid down near a tree and wanted to melt into the roots and disappear, or die, or whatever. I eventually came to my senses and realized that i probably wouldn't be able to disappear and went home.
I did it alone, therefore it was okay?
But when the jester suggests a journey, it is not okay, because that implicates me with the responsibility since it was my spice?
I'm not suggesting that either of these things were safe, it's just odd how the two were treated so differently. I wasn't taking completely uninformed people and giving them high doses of dmt and saying "fend for yourselves, I'm going to run across the street with the jester and grab some dangerous and poisonous plant material for us to smoke."
I was sharing my dmt with some people I happened to feel very comfortable with, who had all tried dmt in the past and had a fairly decent understanding of what it was and what it was capable of doing. I loaded up so much because we were going to be passing it, not because I ever expected people to ingest 100 mg doses.
What was really missing was a designated trip sitter, I designated myself and then negated the responsibility by taking a hit, which is where the situation could have seriously started going wrong, and I realized that upon taking the first hit, but I didn't stop because I figured "screw it, there's plenty of other sober folks here." and that was ultimately the most potentially fatal error, because with a proper trip sitter we would have never been walking around ouside picking unknown plants.
I'm glad you guys addressed the plant thing actually, because I didn't even stop to think how dangerous it could have been, not really even while I was writing the trip report, and I completely agree with everyone that that was a really really stupid idea, I could have killed myself and my friend when I packed that up, and waiting for cars before you cross the street is definitely a strange experience on dmt. I would definitely say it could be dangerous, I think I might be likely to forget why I'm waiting to cross a long strip of asphalt.
All in all I was stupid and irresponsible, there's no denying that, you were definitely right, I get it.
All my future trips will have a responsible and completely sober trip sitter. That should fix the danger problem.
I'd like to thank you for taking the time to read my post, as well as spending all that time to write down what you thought. Most of the members on the nexus seem to be much more knowledgeable than I am, I usually come here in search of validation or information.