Hello HOLY_DREAD,
Let me be the first to give you a warm welcome to the DMT-Nexus! I'm truly sorry that you have been outcasted from your family and that you're no longer able/allowed to talk to them. Must be very difficult at times.
I understand your reluctance to try the molecule. I spent a few months doing research and when I finally had done the extraction, my DMT lay around in the freezer for a looong time before I could gather up the courage to try it. Don't worry, you'll hear 'the call' when you're ready to give it a try. But don't expect DMT to answer any of your questions, it will create only more questions.
In the meantime, you could give other psychedelic substances a try. DMT isn't the only molecule that can help you in your quest, there are many like, such as Psilocybin in magic mushrooms, mescaline in cacti, DMT and beta-carbolines in ayahuasca. These substances are taken orally and while their trips are much longer lasting than vaporized DMT, they are much less "intense". They too can provide very deep and healing insights.
Have you tried extracting DMT yet? Or have you only heard about the molecule and are you doing research to understand it more thoroughly before embarking on quest?
Again, welcome to the Nexus, I hope we can help you integrate into our psychedelic family and find a safe heaven here to discuss all your questions.
Love,
VoidTraveler