Recent opportunity for conscious action and refusal of anger.

[610nanometres]

I returned home from a hospital appointment last week, to find a scaffold being erected along the entire length of my property, with the uprights being almost 3' over the property boundary.
I was not best pleased, as you can possibly imagine, but was sympathetic and accommodating, explaining to the scaffolders that I was happy for the work to continue, so long as 'touches' on my property were protected and the corner upright, which was in a parking space, was picked up. Despite my reminding the scaffolders the next day, before they fixed that corner, the corner upright materialised the next morning, where we had discussed it would not be, and the touches remained unprotected.
I mentioned this to a scaff yesterday, but still nothing had been done, so I emailed the property management agent this morning, attaching a draught of the message I'd be sending to my local MP and the local paper, and looking forward to hearing from them.

I was called by the owner of the management company within the hour, and soon there after I met the owner of the building company to show him the issues.
As a result, we have agreed some roofing works will be carried out on my property, gratis, by way of compensation. The quote for these works was almost £3k.

How I have behaved throughout these interactions has very much been how I would like to see myself behave during stressful situations, but is most certainly NOT how I have historically reacted.
I was pretty FUCKING PISSED to find a load of scaffolders at work on my land, without so much as a by-your-leave (I worked in the scaffold industry for a number of years), but my calm and measured interactions have meant not only am I able to feel good about how my vibration has modulated the energy, but they have ended with a financial gain. The kind of karma all us hippies dream of!
Peace, Love and ShowMeTheMoney

 

[Blind_Goat]

Sensational, I also have some issues with anger management, in an extreme way. Let me explain: I believe that strong emotions like anger or pleasure, joy and sadness must have been evolutionarily important for humans. When it's time to feel anger and act against a threat, I think those who acted quickly and neutralized the problem contributed to our species survival. Similarly, those who had high rationality and calculated WHEN to act also managed to take more effective action and, in the same way, contributed to our success as a species. Therefore, I recognize that emotions are useful and desirable, although sometimes they can go overboard and ruin everything. It is always very situational, and we need to know the right measure for each emotional expression.

For me, the problem tends to be that I operate in extremes: either I explode when someone frustrates me (I am usually less permissive with people who intentionally want to harm me), or I try to control myself and end up being too permissive, always pushing forward the moment when I will no longer accept a civilized conversation and that relationship will be doomed either to me ignoring that person or to conflict. Finding the right measure and the exact moment when we should abandon calmness and embrace conflict has been my reflection for many years. However, I haven't been able to come to a productive conclusion.

Congratulations on your attitude, maybe practice makes perfect.

 

[Nydex]

Peace, Love and ShowMeTheMoney

What a beautiful way to end that post Well done for keeping your cool, I know I'd be pissed too, but you handled it well. You're embodying the change you want to see in the world.