Being happy for others is good, and I can always appreciate even when someone paints on a happy face to not drag others down with them.
However, painted on smiles may not always be the best way towards healthy momentum and can actually be of further detriment to mental and physical health
because it may only be genuine as the generosity towards others and lack successful self-care. But I try both. In other words when I'm successfully feeling a streak of health and happiness I feel like possibly having company and providing the goodness of me to other people who might like that. But that can 'be too much'. But when I'm more so suffering I try to go tiny, stay out of people's way, and project happy gestures from the surface when crossing paths so I won't bother others with whatever positive momentum they may have undisturbed by me, because otherwise that would 'be too much' in another way.
Some misery loves company and may raise the presence and volume levels to have that company, and other misery just wants to disappear as far as it will concern others and them having to absorb unpleasantness even if it's cloaked in a pleasant audio, video, and emanated positivity for the sake of others.. although it is good intention which does count.
There are several definitions of what it means to 'be happy for others'. Sometimes some find it downright annoying for someone to be bubbly and sharing whatever form of smiliness is in their nature to have while in true happy mode. So therefor there can remain no reason to be around those who want to edit and moderate the forms of smiling deemed permissible, or no reason to stay put in their box. Not everyone clicks together at their highs and/or their lows, with perhaps not even enough room in the middle of that for anything but a depression, and only sadness or anger outside of that depression when hurt. Best that specific individuals understand that rather than getting punished for naturally inclined forms of happy or sad or mad or depressed or going into decline for having tried with the wrong people. There are lots of people and giving free love can simply be too expensive in terms of deeper importance than $ etc. Squashing people down to better fit more equally in 2D squares or 3D cubes becomes just another way of marginalizing to the liking of a consensus rather than a healthy choice. True smiles may not be a gear one just pops the stick shift into on a mechanical device of feeling control while inspected by others. Some maybe get help by being somewhat told who and what they are, while some others may just get told that they are who and what they are not welcome to be when they simply have knowledge of self while in touch with their own mind, body, heart and spirit. So many will opt to work towards a private life on private land with private times and private smiles.
