Part of the problem understanding this concept has to do with how you define “I” or “self”. Instead of saying “I make choices”, say “choices are made as the result of lawful interactions between the collection of atoms identified as ‘self’ and their environment”.

More simply, instead of saying “I make choices”, say “I’m a part of a system that makes choices”.

Instead of saying “I have control”, say “I’m a part of a system that has control”.