Well yeah, but then let people do the things they want without labeling it?

Like favoring certain style of music, or not.

I know IMHO they have the pretension to "deal" with the issues while they might instead just keep swimming in it. Let them. I did that too time ago and I'm glad I did, it is all lessons. If not for the "matter" they might just get to know fine people, messy people, get outside, socialize, learn about life. One way or the other. Sitting on a bench in the park is another. Or having a visit at Anne's place for another kind a-stroke-of-life.