drfaust
Rising Star
DisEmboDied said:The appeal to the Straussman/Barker authority fallacy has become apparent to me and I am now embarrassed that I thought that someone for a minute knows whats going on....
IDK, I guess this reality can become boring and mundane once the afterglow wears off, no biggie. I am still here to learn something or pass whatever test that life is challenging me to.
All of your points were spot on, and I am very grateful to read and integrate every one of them.
I would not go so far myself as to inhibit my desire for help or assistance in understanding my "mental pain" or "depressive" states. I would rather like to be sensitive to the fact that my "mental pain" may be quite particular to me.
And I'd demand that kind of sensitivity to my particularity from anyone that I seek help from. There are people who indeed "do know what is going on" in that particular sense. I can tell who they are because they are very careful not to assume they know the "cause" of my mental pain before I tell them some very specific aspects of myself and my stories.
Those people will be very careful and they know enough of what is "really going on" to "not know" what my experience is until I can find a way to tell them or until we can begin to investigate those places in my psyche together.
Likewise with boredom or any other common word used to describe "states of the soul". Those "in the know" will have the naivete of a child and they will not assume that what you mean by boredom is what they mean by boredom.
When I turn my investigative powers back to myself and I look at these "states of the soul", I can see a richness to this particular moment and this particular mix of many states that without investigation I might call "baseline". Boredom is a very interesting and very complex and variable state of the soul, for example. It is worthy of investigation as well.
So, simply, from my perspective, the seeking of help or advice is a natural and even a good impulse.
Help is, however, tricky because I risk having "help" be imposed on me from without, from some authority, or from someone who thinks they know in advance some "cure".
Perhaps, what I really need is just a place to think through something, or a person who can empathize and who can think freely and openly with me. I need someone who can "not know" with me long enough for us to make a discovery together.
Does that make sense to you? Because if it does not make sense to you, then it is not a collaboration and it risks being an imposition on you. And what is the good in that?
I wish you well and I have a concern to preserve an agnostic perspective when it comes to your uniqueness. I appreciate the reality of "mental pain" and I am "in the know" enough to stop myself short, to discipline my beliefs enough to very specifically "not know" what is going on for you.