I definitely see where you are going with this Nathaniel, and I agree with you in the necessity of withholding judgement because we don't know the details about other people's lives. 

At the same time, isn't the duality you presented some kind of false dichotomy? Isn't it possible that psychedelics do help us realize parts of ourselves and our society that are usually hidden from conscious awareness, including certain games people play unconsciously and masks people wear, and yet at the same time isnt it possible that psychedelic people are often deluded about their superiority in some aspects?

Personally I rather just try to find where each one of us is lacking, independent of groups, and try to work on that or help others work on their issues. As an example, i've seen several psychedelic oriented people that do zero exercise, neglect the importance of social life and are mostly living in their minds, (not enough grounding) as well as some that seem to ignore critical thinking specially when it comes to science and pseudo-science. At the same time I've seen non-psychedelic people in the 'real world' that are definitely missing some existential exploration, or that are too caught up in their issues without having an overall perspective, that play games without realizing they are, or so on.

As for "elitism", nothing wrong with being the elite at one or another area of life if you really are, as long as you realize that doesn't make you better in other areas of life. Yes we are def part of an elite when it comes to underground psychedelic research, and no we are not the elite when it comes to having all the answers to other people's lives or making psychological assessment of others, etc.