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Hallucinogens and masturbation abstinence

As mentioned above, Mantak Chia explains it as a reservoire that is plentiful in youth but gets depleted with age and the older you are the more care it needs to be cultivated. Perhaps it's not exactly about vitamins or minerals or testosterone. It's about life energy, which at this point is not measured by science, but one day it will be, mark my words 😁
I believe this to be exactly the case. It's the reproductive fluid's relation to a yet-undiscovered form of energy that makes it important to not be wasteful. As you say, this is especially relevant as we get older. I'm also in my 40s, and the distinct feeling of lack after ejaculation has become too apparent to ignore.
 
I'm 36 and have gone round and round with this over the years, and it was especially bad during a long (to me) lonely period without any intimacy, and I still deal with residual effects from that. Didn't have the self value or wherewithal to notice what was going on.

Currently, I still go round and round, but at least know it's not an actual addiction, since when my mind is in the space to limit my interaction (with porn and/or masturbation) I do it. Otherwise it's a mix of stubbornness, indecision, and loss as to what is right for me when there's so much conflicting information. It's also something that goes hand in hand with depression for me.

It seems to be a "do what's right for you" situation being relative and subjective. I personally just try to find the balance between overindulgence and discipline. Everything in moderation, including moderation.

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It seems to be a "do what's right for you" situation being relative and subjective. I personally just try to find the balance between overindulgence and discipline. Everything in moderation, including moderation.
This seems to be the single best answer when it comes to the topic. It's possible there's no predetermined amount of abstinence that fits everyone's particular situations, and the balance just needs to be discovered on an individual basis.
 
This seems to be the single best answer when it comes to the topic. It's possible there's no predetermined amount of abstinence that fits everyone's particular situations, and the balance just needs to be discovered on an individual basis.
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This might derail the topic a little bit, but it's on my mind and I want to share it.

We as creatures have this desire and habit of over-attribution of certain aspects of something to everything else. It keeps things simple for us. Most religious proponents will say their religion is "right." Political parties are "right" and their opponents are "wrong." In physics, the search for the grand unified theory. A man isn't a man if he paints his nails. Gender norms. Diet. I can go on and on. Individuals claiming that one thing is for everyone. Even in psychedelics. I had a guy from Santo Daime tell me that pharma isn't really touching the spirit like aya, which is not only biased and marginalizing, but is also an over-extension of his beliefs and convictions.

We may not all experience consciousness the same, so it seems to follow that we all have to find our own balance.

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Also, I never answered one of the OP's questions. In my experience, psychedelics will only make your goal more challenging to achieve. They are non-descript amplifiers. Whatever you feel, you'll feel it more, including aroused and horny.

I've had sexual experiences in psychedelic lands and not with a human partner. So if you want to make it harder, add em :lol:

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For me, periods of abstinence are signalled very clearly by my inner self. I have learned to listen and not self indulge most of the time. Sometimes I ignore and rebel.

I'm 42, have been single for just 4 months since I was 17. Three different long term partners. The third now, with children. Never felt deprived of intimacy, nor depleted by sexual activity.

For example, I've never been able to orgasm and fall straight to sleep. That male stereotype eluded me completely. Always awake for a few hours after.

20 years ago I definitely had periods of over indulgence. Now not so much.

A lot of waffle. To the point:

For 2 years have been teaching myself classical guitar. I have found that after sexual release, alone or with partner, I can play for an hour and a half without effort. I also create new sounds and rhythms that astound me when listening to the recording. Where did that come from??

Conversely, if I abstain from the orgasm, my rhythmic ability decreases and I can usually only play for 30 mins. Add to that a distinct lack of creative inspiration. I can play old stuff that I made up the week before. But it sounds flat and unemotional.

I'm certainly not contradicting any of the wisdom posted here. I am quite sure that the ancient traditions on the topic of semen retention are well founded. But for this creative purpose there is no doubt that I see improvement when sexually satisfied.
 
For 2 years have been teaching myself classical guitar. I have found that after sexual release, alone or with partner, I can play for an hour and a half without effort. I also create new sounds and rhythms that astound me when listening to the recording. Where did that come from??

Conversely, if I abstain from the orgasm, my rhythmic ability decreases and I can usually only play for 30 mins. Add to that a distinct lack of creative inspiration. I can play old stuff that I made up the week before. But it sounds flat and unemotional.

I'm certainly not contradicting any of the wisdom posted here. I am quite sure that the ancient traditions on the topic of semen retention are well founded. But for this creative purpose there is no doubt that I see improvement when sexually satisfied.
Yeah man, this definitely isn't a cut and dry topic.

I've noticed similar things to you, but not consistently. Sometimes after ejaculation or orgasm, I just want to sleep, other times, I'm ready to conquer the world and solve all of it's problems :ROFLMAO:

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For sure the right way differs for everybody, even for the same person during different life phases. That doesn't negate the mechanics of male physiology and energy body though, imho.

As a final note I would like to emphasize once again the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation. It just seems like people are writing with the assumption that they are the same thing.

Being in contact with my sexual energy, feeling arousal and pleasure, without ejaculation for me personally is like a staple for feeling alive, connected, and high energy. Although there are times for leaving behind sexual arousal completely, I can imagine that I would go dull, and not just with my classical guitar ( 😉) if I stayed asexual for too long.

Also, as I said, when you are blessed with a sacred long term relationship, the sex that includes ejaculation can feel charging in different ways.
 
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For sure the right way differs for everybody, even for the same person during different life phases. That doesn't negate the mechanics of male physiology and energy body though, imho.
It could be that the differences in physiology and body from person to person is what necessitates a right way that differs for everyone. While we can pin down different functions that occur in the human body, there are nuanced differences in how these functions function. Restoring of energy, replenishing testosterone, etc can be a faster process for some than others.

As a final note I would like to emphasize once again the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation. It just seems like people are writing with the assumption that they are the same thing.

Being in contact with my sexual energy, feeling arousal and pleasure, without ejaculation for me personally is like a staple for feeling alive, connected, and high energy. Although there are times for leaving behind sexual arousal completely, I can imagine that I would go dull, and not just with my classical guitar ( 😉) if I stayed asexual for too long.
This makes a lot of sense to me. It seems that sexual energies and creative energies are intertwined, and having a certain balance in one influences certain aspects of the other.

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For sure the right way differs for everybody, even for the same person during different life phases. That doesn't negate the mechanics of male physiology and energy body though, imho.

As a final note I would like to emphasize once again the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation. It just seems like people are writing with the assumption that they are the same thing.

Being in contact with my sexual energy, feeling arousal and pleasure, without ejaculation for me personally is like a staple for feeling alive, connected, and high energy. Although there are times for leaving behind sexual arousal completely, I can imagine that I would go dull, and not just with my classical guitar ( 😉) if I stayed asexual for too long.

Also, as I said, when you are blessed with a sacred long term relationship, the sex that includes ejaculation can feel charging in different ways.


I appreciate everything you've written in this thread dithy. As it goes I appreciate what you write in most threads.

I would like to explore the things you describe. I think I could benefit from learning orgasm without ejaculation. Certain encounters with the opposite sex have put me in a sort of tantric state of bliss, but it has been rare and many years ago. It was not my skill or experience that made that, it seems to have been a gift from life when it has happened.
 
I can’t imagine that these strange misogynistic ideas from the manosphere really help anyone, let alone make any positive difference in tripping. Forcing yourself through this is just putting yourself up for failure and is not actually helping you. My advice is just masturbate this is healthy, not only mentally but also physically, it does not make you weak, and you don’t have to be worried about god judging you.
Again, this is your very specific world view being projected. The jury is out regards masturbation but you will find plenty of sources that point to it being unhealthy as well as some saying the opposite. He asked a question regards masturbation abstinence not to be given an answer from someone who cant control this urge trying to validate their own habits.


In my experience, there is a connection between access to higher states of consciousness and semen retention. As I'm sure you noticed in those Taoism books, this is a concept that has been fleshed out since the beginning of spiritual teachings. Being non-wasteful with semen seems to be especially relevant when you start looking towards more advanced stages of development, such as those involving kundalini.
Absolutely, almost all spiritual traditions would be clear that masturbation and sexual control are necessary preconditions to advancing on the path and cultivating higher consciousness.


I suppose the use of psychedelics may help in the endeavor, but as someone else in the thread mentioned, they can cause an excitation of sexual energy themselves. So their use for this purpose can actually be counterproductive if you haven't mastered yourself, which I'm guessing may be the case if you're using a contraption like the one in the pic.
I find this to be the case, LSD and psilocybin for me lead to the excitation of sexual desire although it is sometimes possible to control this but would take a lot of work.
DMT and Harmalas however do not cause this effect and thus are more easily conducive to meditation and abstinence from sexuality I have found, I imagine 5-MeO-DMT would be similar.
 
Last I checked, there wasn't any hard evidence about the benefits (which doesn't negate the positive benefits people report: improved self-esteem, improved confidence, better focus etc).
You also need to consider that masturbation frequently goes hand in hand with pornography use, for which there are plenty of studies showing psychological damage from consuming as well as bringing generally unhealthy attitudes to sex.

The idea that abstaining from masturbation is somehow 'misogynistic', especially compared with modern porn use itself which is frequently very degrading to women, has got to be one of the most wacky ideas that has been put out there.
 
Panpsychic, you're coming across as quite fanatical about no masturbation. Almost feels like a personal attack on varallo. Can't control urges? Validate own habits? Seems like a lot of conjecture.

Are you saying that a person who masturbates simply cannot reach as 'high a level of consciousness' as one who abstained? High level defined by who?

Does it offend you that other beings may be able to live full, spiritually rich lives while also embracing a strong sexual personality?

What it actually appears to be is that you have a deeper problem with your own urges and habits and wish to project your struggle onto a separate being.
 
Panpsychic, you're coming across as quite fanatical about no masturbation. Almost feels like a personal attack on varallo. Can't control urges? Validate own habits? Seems like a lot of conjecture.
I don't think so. I stated above that there are both positive and negative views about it. I did however attack the ridiculous idea that abstaining from masturbation is somehow 'misogynistic' especially in light of the misogyny of porn use that usually accompanies masturbation.

Are you saying that a person who masturbates simply cannot reach as 'high a level of consciousness' as one who abstained? High level defined by who?

Psychedelics can bring one to higher consciousness whether one masturbates or not. Meditation can do likewise but it is easier with both to attain and sustain deeper consciousness in daily living if one abstains.

As I mentioned there are numerous spiritual maps and frameworks that discuss this that we dont need to go into here.


Does it offend you that other beings may be able to live full, spiritually rich lives while also embracing a strong sexual personality?
Why would it 'offend me'? I did not claim to be celibate.

However I would disagree with masturbation especially using porn, to be a sign of a 'strong sexual personality'.

What it actually appears to be is that you have a deeper problem with your own urges and habits and wish to project your struggle onto a separate being.
Does it cause a reaction in you to take a stance against masturbation for personal and spiritual purposes? Many have struggled and do so, with or without a spiritual stance. I responded to the initial post response which was making a blanket dismissal of abstaining and endorsing it as healthy, which is clearly just a personal view. In contrast I have put forth both sides of the argument but broadly side with the spiritual traditions that agree with minimizing and abstaining for higher spiritual development.
 
No, it doesnt cause a reaction in me whatever stance you take. I just do not believe that what works for you is absolute for everyone. If we are indeed a manifestation of source for the purpose of experiencing every possible part of the self then it stands to reason that your views do not align with another's.

Another absolute that you seem to be pushing is that porn is some kind of evil. Undoubtedly there is a dark and exploitative element. But there are also a variety of depictions of the naked human form and sexual acts that are truly beautiful and legitimately victimless. Why should a person feel less than whole for enjoying such imagery?

I'm glad that you now state it is 'easier' to grow spiritually if you abstain. Because claiming that self inflicted orgasm makes it impossible to grow would be bizarre.

Maybe some people are more susceptible to being hindered by masturbtion. Maybe other benefit from it.

Just because a dude who spends his whole life alone on a mountain says wanking is bad for you does not equate to a universal law.

Indeed, if source is to experience orgasm it would need to be self inflicted. Yes, I said it. God is a wanker.
 
I don't think so. I stated above that there are both positive and negative views about it. I did however attack the ridiculous idea that abstaining from masturbation is somehow 'misogynistic' especially in light of the misogyny of porn use that usually accompanies masturbation.



Psychedelics can bring one to higher consciousness whether one masturbates or not. Meditation can do likewise but it is easier with both to attain and sustain deeper consciousness in daily living if one abstains.

As I mentioned there are numerous spiritual maps and frameworks that discuss this that we dont need to go into here.



Why would it 'offend me'? I did not claim to be celibate.

However I would disagree with masturbation especially using porn, to be a sign of a 'strong sexual personality'.


Does it cause a reaction in you to take a stance against masturbation for personal and spiritual purposes? Many have struggled and do so, with or without a spiritual stance. I responded to the initial post response which was making a blanket dismissal of abstaining and endorsing it as healthy, which is clearly just a personal view. In contrast I have put forth both sides of the argument but broadly side with the spiritual traditions that agree with minimizing and abstaining for higher spiritual development.
Maybe read the whole tread, some things have already been addressed and nuanced, there is zero need for your combative style of replying here.

On the links with political ideology and the manosphere, just google, abstinence and manosphere, you will find a plethora of articles explaining how these things are actually related and why they’re not really a healthy thing, either physically or mentally.

A good in depth article on the topic to start reading is the one I add to this post.

Good luck
 

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What's misogynistic about not having a wank? and what's a 'manosphere'? Did he edit something out of his post? Semen retention is a thing, it can have many positive physical and mental effects, you think that won't affect trips?
True, masturbation is just a normal bodily function that a lot of people do.
 
In contrast I have put forth both sides of the argument but broadly side with the spiritual traditions that agree with minimizing and abstaining for higher spiritual development.
It can be tricky for people to understand this. I think it often brings up images of Christians using a cat o' nine tails whip to punish themselves for impure thoughts, or perhaps the current political landscape where some people hold a certain amount of resentment towards women. I'm guessing most masturbation-abstinence objectors aren't factoring in the effects that wasteful semen loss (or the female equivalent) can have on a person who's able to tap authentic mystical states, considering that's a pretty rare variable to even consider.

I can't sit here and list the exact mechanism behind it, but it causes a decrease in the quality and strength of attention, which then lessens the depth of higher states. All the esoteric spiritual traditions knew it because they routinely dabbled in these kinds of practices, so it became obvious and undeniable. But to my knowledge, there have been no double-blind placebo-controlled trials to validate this, so I guess it's fine if people are skeptical, and maybe even appropriate. To them, it probably seems like an arbitrary connection to make, tying the reproductive process to something that's already a little scientifically dubious, i.e., mystical states of consciousness.

So in my opinion, it's probably not a worthwhile battle to wage. People are going to believe what they want based on their own experiences. It's the same for all of us. In a different world, the roles could have just as easily been reversed, with us being the objector and labeling them as misogynistic pigs lol.
 
Maybe read the whole tread, some things have already been addressed and nuanced,
Yes, I see now you had apologised and backtracked somewhat from your initial response.
I wouldn't call my response combative however, but rarher you will always get a firm response if you make assumptions as though they are true.

On the links with political ideology and the manosphere, just google, abstinence and manosphere, you will find a plethora of articles explaining how these things are actually related and why they’re not really a healthy thing, either physically or mentally.

Sexual abstinance and reducing masturbation are thousands of years old. As has been mentioned, I dont think we need to be referencing any modern political ideologies to address this and certainly not as the first association. I'll pass thanks.


Another absolute that you seem to be pushing is that porn is some kind of evil.
It depends on your metaphysical world view how 'evil' porn and sensuality in general can be seen as. I wouldn't call it evil, more an expression of a base urge that should be controlled to access higher levels of reality.

Undoubtedly there is a dark and exploitative element. But there are also a variety of depictions of the naked human form and sexual acts that are truly beautiful and legitimately victimless. Why should a person feel less than whole for enjoying such imagery?

While there is some relatively harmless pornographic depictions, there is a very significant proportion that is unethical, violent and degrading. There is also widespread research that the intensity and variety of porn use increases over time, so one is more likely to come into contact with such type of material over time in order to maintain the novelty factor and intensity of arousal.

Why is why I stand by what I said earlier : somehow equating abstinence from masturbation with 'misogyny', while equating masturbation - which frequently accompanies porn use which is often the pinnacle of misogyny, - with a healthy attitude to sex, is one of the most bizaare statements I have come across.

It can be tricky for people to understand this. I think it often brings up images of Christians using a cat o' nine tails whip to punish themselves for impure thoughts, or perhaps the current political landscape where some people hold a certain amount of resentment towards women. I'm guessing most masturbation-abstinence objectors aren't factoring in the effects that wasteful semen loss (or the female equivalent) can have on a person who's able to tap authentic mystical states, considering that's a pretty rare variable to even consider.

I agree, it probably triggers a reflex against associations of puritanicalism. Sadly, the baby got thrown out with the bathwater on that one as the purity of ones thought and actions is key to spiritual development.

I can't sit here and list the exact mechanism behind it, but it causes a decrease in the quality and strength of attention, which then lessens the depth of higher states. All the esoteric spiritual traditions knew it because they routinely dabbled in these kinds of practices, so it became obvious and undeniable.
Yes, we are not reinventing the wheel with this.

So in my opinion, it's probably not a worthwhile battle to wage. People are going to believe what they want based on their own experiences. It's the same for all of us. In a different world, the roles could have just as easily been reversed, with us being the objector and labeling them as misogynistic pigs lol.
Agreed. I have said all I think needs to be said on this.
For those who masturbate and use porn, I have been there myself so in no means am judging and it possibly can be done in a relatively healthy way but, much easier if done without the porn I would say. I encountered one girl once who condidered porn use as "the lowest form of cheating" so there's that as well.

As to abstinence - its a road much less easily travelled but many of my peak experiences on LSD and DMT have been more or less directing me toward this more and more which is in alignment with the esoteric paths so I am basing my views not just on this but what the experience is showing me.
 
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