Hey DES, don't worry you won't come back as en enlightened being. Ego death is quite rare on DMT anyways (5-MeO-DMT will probably be more likely to hit that note). And if you should be so lucky to come back fully enlightened experiencing from a non-dual perspective 24/7 you (and your wife) should be so lucky. And you could probably write a book about it since you probably would be the first person to achieve that.