Sphorange congratulations :thumb_up:

I wish you all good and well.

I've never married myself, no kids, 2 very long relationships so far.

I think people transform seriously over time, and the one you marry will change, and you change too. Marriage can survive it all, or it can't. Future will tell.

The pagan approach I know of (in ritual context) they marry [handfasting] for a test period like one year and than can choose again to proceed or not. This is not state law of course, but they look at it a bit more pragmatic.