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Traged

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Hello friends,

after some time in this world I came to conclusion. You should seek out life you want, but also go with the flow of things. When opportunity finds you, without you looking for it, I think its cosmos telling you what to do. If you did not look for it yet, it found you, embrace it.

But change is hard.

I work at you could say small culture venue. Basically town hall for weddings, concerts, theater. I am your sound guy, and anything other humans cant do. I didn't look for this job. It found me by itself. I have fun and I do ton of shenanigans. Thing is it doesn't pay enough.

I got an offer, again, I didn't even look for a change. I did not tell anybody I want to change anything. Even though I have been thinking about my future. What I need to do to get better paying job and that it will involve moving somewhere else. For me to find a job I would not be miserable at, I would have to spend some time preparing... getting back to coding... it would take a year, at least, for me to be "job ready". Offer I got is basic IT (my printer doesn't work stuff), which would not require me to prepare like the changes I was thinking about to do. It comes with cheaper housing, which is extremely rare, when moving to bigger city. Its elementary school, I would come to contact with much more women. Might find a wife there, even if not at work... its still rather big place a much more actually thinking humans. Money would be much better. With my current lifestyle, I can save up. I would be closer to other opportunities.

Almost feels like getting something for free. Except, I would be leaving behind people I like, people I care about. Which is not a bad thing, its a sad thing. I cant be throwing my future for others. Grandma is 84, I wont be seeing her few times a week, it would be every few months. Younger brother might take it hard. And so on...

Year is dying, leaves are falling and I am overwhelmed by change. Too much at once, giving up ephemeral things I hold dearest at my life. Knowing I cant hold on to them anymore, and have to let them go willingly. It would not make any sense to fight it. I just need to let go, overcomed by sadness.

Thank you <3
 
So what is it about that you're seeking advice? To me it seems pretty clear you've embraced the change that is coming your way. You know it'll be hard to leave people behind, but you also know it'll be an important stepping stone towards you getting a job that pays better and work towards your future.

I have no reservations about leaving a job if an opportunity presents itself to me, regardless how close I feel to the people there, because if we're that close and care that much about each other, we won't lose contact even if I move across the globe. Speaking from experience here.

I'm guilty of quoting Terence McKenna perhaps too much, but here I think this particular quote fits exceptionally well:
Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it's a feather bed.
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Don't be afraid. Life might be showing you signs that the change which you are afraid of is precisely the change you want. That you need to learn to let go of people and places and embrace the unknown, the uncomfortable, the terrifying.

Every time I've done that in the past, it has always, without exception, proven to be the right thing to do.

Stay strong. Good things are coming. <3
 
Sometimes its not about the question. Its about writing it down. Its about someone else reading it and understanding. Sometimes that becomes advice.

Thank you <3

(love the quote though)
 
You gotta go. Consider starting a business though perhaps you could just do that where you are now? Tell me about your local demographics but you can easily make a good living doing various things for people. Ideally, stuff that requires good (expensive) equipment as a barrier to entry for the do-it-yourselfer contingent.

Look, in my neck of the woods you can unclog drains for 350 a pop and in and out in 20 minutes with some *knowledge* and a heavy duty auger... and 20 minutes was a difficult one. Guy was booked solid. "Sump Pump Repair" is probably obtainable with a basic business listing + fb + website.

I know a millionaire built his business running stoner window washing crews. Many such endeavors to choose from. This as an alternative to chasing another wage. I feel you're more likely to end up with *excessive cash* with your own business or businesses, which naturally, since there is nothing to buy, results in obtaining cash-flowing real estate and businesses. At no point will there be anything to buy but it's just a test since various immoralities and indulgences will set you back some cash.

JOB - Just Over Broke
If you thought about that prospect before, indulge me: why haven't you?
 
Me moving, will improve possibility of me starting a business... In my current residence I could only scale with website store.

I have been thinking about starting something for some time. I am currently in the process of restoring old piano - for example. I also bought video making equipment this year(2 soft boxes, gimbal, tripod, R50 Cannon - also have a Cannon 80DW from before).

My current demographic - central EU, country average yearly salary under 12 000€ (after taxes). I am making around 10k this year. With me moving I will be going to 18k, and living in capital city.

I guess there is always some distraction. Also I am doing well mentally only few years, I used to be a mess with depression. I couldn't be consistent for a long time. I have put myself together, if you could call me mended now...

I took the job btw
 
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