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Traged

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Hello friends,

after some time in this world I came to conclusion. You should seek out life you want, but also go with the flow of things. When opportunity finds you, without you looking for it, I think its cosmos telling you what to do. If you did not look for it yet, it found you, embrace it.

But change is hard.

I work at you could say small culture venue. Basically town hall for weddings, concerts, theater. I am your sound guy, and anything other humans cant do. I didn't look for this job. It found me by itself. I have fun and I do ton of shenanigans. Thing is it doesn't pay enough.

I got an offer, again, I didn't even look for a change. I did not tell anybody I want to change anything. Even though I have been thinking about my future. What I need to do to get better paying job and that it will involve moving somewhere else. For me to find a job I would not be miserable at, I would have to spend some time preparing... getting back to coding... it would take a year, at least, for me to be "job ready". Offer I got is basic IT (my printer doesn't work stuff), which would not require me to prepare like the changes I was thinking about to do. It comes with cheaper housing, which is extremely rare, when moving to bigger city. Its elementary school, I would come to contact with much more women. Might find a wife there, even if not at work... its still rather big place a much more actually thinking humans. Money would be much better. With my current lifestyle, I can save up. I would be closer to other opportunities.

Almost feels like getting something for free. Except, I would be leaving behind people I like, people I care about. Which is not a bad thing, its a sad thing. I cant be throwing my future for others. Grandma is 84, I wont be seeing her few times a week, it would be every few months. Younger brother might take it hard. And so on...

Year is dying, leaves are falling and I am overwhelmed by change. Too much at once, giving up ephemeral things I hold dearest at my life. Knowing I cant hold on to them anymore, and have to let them go willingly. It would not make any sense to fight it. I just need to let go, overcomed by sadness.

Thank you <3
 
So what is it about that you're seeking advice? To me it seems pretty clear you've embraced the change that is coming your way. You know it'll be hard to leave people behind, but you also know it'll be an important stepping stone towards you getting a job that pays better and work towards your future.

I have no reservations about leaving a job if an opportunity presents itself to me, regardless how close I feel to the people there, because if we're that close and care that much about each other, we won't lose contact even if I move across the globe. Speaking from experience here.

I'm guilty of quoting Terence McKenna perhaps too much, but here I think this particular quote fits exceptionally well:
Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it's a feather bed.

Don't be afraid. Life might be showing you signs that the change which you are afraid of is precisely the change you want. That you need to learn to let go of people and places and embrace the unknown, the uncomfortable, the terrifying.

Every time I've done that in the past, it has always, without exception, proven to be the right thing to do.

Stay strong. Good things are coming. <3
 
Sometimes its not about the question. Its about writing it down. Its about someone else reading it and understanding. Sometimes that becomes advice.

Thank you <3

(love the quote though)
 
You gotta go. Consider starting a business though perhaps you could just do that where you are now? Tell me about your local demographics but you can easily make a good living doing various things for people. Ideally, stuff that requires good (expensive) equipment as a barrier to entry for the do-it-yourselfer contingent.

Look, in my neck of the woods you can unclog drains for 350 a pop and in and out in 20 minutes with some *knowledge* and a heavy duty auger... and 20 minutes was a difficult one. Guy was booked solid. "Sump Pump Repair" is probably obtainable with a basic business listing + fb + website.

I know a millionaire built his business running stoner window washing crews. Many such endeavors to choose from. This as an alternative to chasing another wage. I feel you're more likely to end up with *excessive cash* with your own business or businesses, which naturally, since there is nothing to buy, results in obtaining cash-flowing real estate and businesses. At no point will there be anything to buy but it's just a test since various immoralities and indulgences will set you back some cash.

JOB - Just Over Broke
If you thought about that prospect before, indulge me: why haven't you?
 
Me moving, will improve possibility of me starting a business... In my current residence I could only scale with website store.

I have been thinking about starting something for some time. I am currently in the process of restoring old piano - for example. I also bought video making equipment this year(2 soft boxes, gimbal, tripod, R50 Cannon - also have a Cannon 80DW from before).

My current demographic - central EU, country average yearly salary under 12 000€ (after taxes). I am making around 10k this year. With me moving I will be going to 18k, and living in capital city.

I guess there is always some distraction. Also I am doing well mentally only few years, I used to be a mess with depression. I couldn't be consistent for a long time. I have put myself together, if you could call me mended now...

I took the job btw
 
Cant go to sleep so I figured I will update you guys.

Tomorrow/today it will be my first week at the new place.

I still find this entire thing absurd, it feels, it looks and it is weird. Its so weird I have a feeling we have to talk about it :)

I am tired, from last few weeks, all the preparations, constant packing and sorting, then unpacking and ton of new humans.
I tried to practice yesterday (piano), could do 5 minutes. Today it was better but still tough.

Everything is sort of weirdly good. If nothing bad happens then seems like someone switched life on easy mode for me - for some reason. Better late then never I guess. (lets not jinx it thou...)

After trial period, I should start to look after college (when I fix some stuff here I will have much spare time during work hours), some faculties are walking distance and to not to them would be stupid. I am trying to not be stupid, so I guess... decisions will be made this year.

Also as ever, I have tons of other ideas and here they should be easier done...

Mushrooms are grown at home by my younger brother now. Padawaning will do him good. I gave him (with supervision of our mother) plants to care. He will have garden to grow soon and I should get him some seed. He is doing great so far, visiting grandma instead of me. <3

Some days seems to me that people open to me very easily. I am trying to figure out why. (they tell me weird things)

It will be a weird year.

<3
 
So good to hear that brother! While I'm very happy that things are going well for you, I want to urge you towards some caution on this:
If nothing bad happens then seems like someone switched life on easy mode for me

It's easy to get "lost" in the moment when things are going great, but one should try and not let themselves assume this will be the permanent state of affairs. You know very well how life ebbs and flows, and has the tendency to kick you down when you're soaring highest, sometimes for no apparent reason at all.

Embracing life with all of its dualities and polarities is such a difficult task, though, especially when things are going well. You did the right thing, though. Taking a step out of your comfort zone and being rewarded for it.

You're doing great. Keep your head in the game and try to enjoy even the smallest things in life. <3
 
So good to hear that brother! While I'm very happy that things are going well for you, I want to urge you towards some caution on this:


It's easy to get "lost" in the moment when things are going great, but one should try and not let themselves assume this will be the permanent state of affairs. You know very well how life ebbs and flows, and has the tendency to kick you down when you're soaring highest, sometimes for no apparent reason at all.

Embracing life with all of its dualities and polarities is such a difficult task, though, especially when things are going well. You did the right thing, though. Taking a step out of your comfort zone and being rewarded for it.

You're doing great. Keep your head in the game and try to enjoy even the smallest things in life. <3
When I think about it deeper, its nor really on easy mode. It is the way I will be able to do other hard things, like music and study. At least I hope...

<3
 
I think putting energy into arts and culture seems to draw positive things to onesself. I've had several strokes of luck after putting out a lot of creative energy.
 
Yesterday I am talking to friend of mine, turns out I have only about a month to choose college if I want to start this year. Any ideas? What would be the best things to learn, what are accepted globally? Lets say good paying world wide? I am thinking about biology a bit? Some biochemistry? I don't have any background in that... but would like to know more. I also have some inclinations to programming. I have been thinking about that before.

Basically I like:
plants
substances
computers
electrical engineering
engineering
arts
music - I am learning piano
cooking
also I like design, I am planning on learning to draw and would like to learn woodworking eventually

One of my ideas is to take two colleges with slight overlap - If I manage to get two things which have partially same subjects - mathematics 1 for example I could be able to do both of them...

<3
 
I would work on this with ChatGPT. Put as much context in and information as well as your goal and values. It should help you think through the risks and benefits.
 
Thanks for bringing us along in your search.

Think of your role models. Which people do you admire? Don’t overthink the disciplines so much. Can you name any that come to mind?

If that’s too tough, think of specific inventions you love, or works of art that touch you. Which are those? Decide on your favorites.
 
You could become a chemist? that way you can put your foot into professional psychedelic chemistry engineer with a botany major alongside that, and plants (herbalism/botany/gardening/farming) perhaps, while also being a smartie pants and using computers as much as you like as all modern day sciences seem to use. Chemistry could also be somewhat related to cooking, albeit distantly. It could maybe get you a job in the new and upcoming psychedelic industries around the globe, or if not industry, you could still maybe be part of other projects. Idk just an idea.


Also one thing to keep in mind is that, many industries, definitely need all sorts of professionals. So what you might get certifications for via college (or other professional certifications outside of college), you can still take those specialized skills and go into all sorts of sectors. for instance, if someone was really into chemical engineering and food, they could go chemical engineer the food of the future.


You said 'engineering' so I'm assuming that means you like to solve puzzles, design things, and think systematically. Electrical engineering is one of the most difficult engineering fields as far as I know since it can involve a lot of the more difficult physics topics (just a heads up!).


A fun thing to do is perhaps to find some conferences, or workshops or such and get a sense for the professional vibe. It might be worth a drive or two. A university degree is a massive investment so I feel like it's nice to already be somewhat invested, somehow, in the topic you are going into. This could mean that you like to read and learn about it in your own time, and do things, or study it, or socialize over it. It might mean that you have sought out tangential competencies that are closely related. For instance, if you just really enjoy computers, and electrical magic, buttons, signals, sounds, bleeps and bloops, then EE might be natural for you. If you were really into radios your whole life, and have them lying around your room, then maybe radio EE stuff. If you look at who you have been in your life path, you might find some consistencies there that can inspire you.

As far as I know, many other career paths might not go through university. For instance, many trades I've looked into like massage or makeup art are very piecewise and take time, worthwhile results, and networking to develop. It's not really like a degree and done situation. Shamanism doesn't even have degrees. You just go into the jungle for that stuff 😂 University maybe be required for any industries that are tied to the government in some way, or which require strict prerequisites (such as the medical field). I know that EE is mostly employed by the GOV in the United States, and I know that for instance, the psychedelic chemists might often be involved in GOV chemical research as well, but of course there are cool private companies and you could move around the world for a job.

I don't know if all jobs are 'good paying' worldwide. I don't know if I would aim for that. The future will need people who can help society improve its relationship to the earth. If you like food and plants you could get into the future of agriculture. You could get into some really cool research for healthy, ethical, and sustainable food systems. It might involve computers, and statics, it might definitely involve plants intimately. this is always a need globally, and every climate and culture and crop and yada yada is different.

Just ramblings, I hope some of this was nice. Had a minute to blow xD
 
Think of your role models. Which people do you admire? Don’t overthink the disciplines so much. Can you name any that come to mind?
Joe Rogan, Andrew Huberman, Lex Fridman, David Goggins, Tim Ferris and of course Terrence McKenna, Dennis McKenna, Marcus Aurelius, Leroy "Lee" Cronin, Stephen Harrod Buhner. The last one I dont know lot about but I am interested in his work. We could do longer list but I guess it would be pointless.

You could become a chemist?
That is one of the things I am thinking about. But we didn't have chemistry at high school.
You said 'engineering' so I'm assuming that means you like to solve puzzles, design things, and think systematically.
As a young boy I wanted one thing, a computer. But they were too expensive for my parent/parents... I got an idea that I maybe could build one if I learn enough and started learning. Long story short, we eventually could afford PC, and I went to electrical engineering high school. I can be very analytical, can see solutions where other cant. When I was in elementary I used to go around math competitions - I don't consider myself good at math now - which bothers me.
I don't know if all jobs are 'good paying' worldwide. I don't know if I would aim for that. The future will need people who can help society improve its relationship to the earth.
Well, I am looking for something that could provide for entire family with ease anywhere at the world.
If you like food and plants you could get into the future of agriculture. You could get into some really cool research for healthy, ethical, and sustainable food systems.
Those are all things that interest me... I even been thinking about this, but these things require immense funding.


Thanks for bringing us along in your search.
My pleasure I feel fortunate to be able to do so...

What I am thinking about in general is that, if I try to merge two fields somehow I could get great results. For this world and consequentially also for me.

<3
 
Ethnobotany and phytochemistry might be of interest as a combiined direction of study - your engineering skills would transfer very nicely to the kind of high-end analytical machinery used for separating and identifying plant compounds of interest. If this grabs your attention, aim to have a chat with @endlessness about it(although he's super-busy).
 
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