Hi. This thread stems from this post.
I'll start with what's helping me and I hope can help other people as well. I know depression is different for different people, and maybe my advice isn't for everyone, or feels very commonplace. Anyway here it is.
Reaching the root of your depression
Whenever you feel depressed (for example if you wake up and you feel like someone is punching you in your stomach, or feel empty, or like a part of you died), instead of fighting the feeling, try to let the feeling pass through you.
[I know we're talking about uncomfortable feelings so it will never be a pleasant experience, but if it makes you feel too bad or gives you strong anxiety and you can't bear it stop, and do it only when you feel more comfortable, or when you are with loved ones or a therapist.]
Let the emotions flow, and focus on how you feel: lonely? misunderstood? or something else. Probably it won't be clear at first, but time after time you should be able to identify the feeling, to identify what you're missing or what you feel like you're missing.
Maybe you will realize that you're feeling exactly like you felt in a past situation. If that's the case, try to recall what was bothering you then and if it could be the same thing that is bothering you now.
Another useful thing to do is focusing on what or who you would need to feel better. So you can find out what you miss.
Sometimes maybe you know what you miss but you think that it's a thing of the past and isn't bothering you anymore. That there must be something else. But that's not always the case. If for example when you were a child you often felt rejected by other people, and now you're full of friends, you could still be feeling lonely. Because what happens to us as children or teens has an impact on our self-image and our thought patterns.
I'll start with what's helping me and I hope can help other people as well. I know depression is different for different people, and maybe my advice isn't for everyone, or feels very commonplace. Anyway here it is.
Reaching the root of your depression
Whenever you feel depressed (for example if you wake up and you feel like someone is punching you in your stomach, or feel empty, or like a part of you died), instead of fighting the feeling, try to let the feeling pass through you.
[I know we're talking about uncomfortable feelings so it will never be a pleasant experience, but if it makes you feel too bad or gives you strong anxiety and you can't bear it stop, and do it only when you feel more comfortable, or when you are with loved ones or a therapist.]
Let the emotions flow, and focus on how you feel: lonely? misunderstood? or something else. Probably it won't be clear at first, but time after time you should be able to identify the feeling, to identify what you're missing or what you feel like you're missing.
Maybe you will realize that you're feeling exactly like you felt in a past situation. If that's the case, try to recall what was bothering you then and if it could be the same thing that is bothering you now.
Another useful thing to do is focusing on what or who you would need to feel better. So you can find out what you miss.
Sometimes maybe you know what you miss but you think that it's a thing of the past and isn't bothering you anymore. That there must be something else. But that's not always the case. If for example when you were a child you often felt rejected by other people, and now you're full of friends, you could still be feeling lonely. Because what happens to us as children or teens has an impact on our self-image and our thought patterns.
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, and also exists across time, and is very real. From the moment we are born, we are in touch, and this continues to evolve from there. When we are depressed, we are, even in the depths, looking for someone that is responsive to our existence, and not a blank face. Someone that reflects our sensibility back to us, someone we can talk with and share ourselves with on this adventure. People, Animals, Nature, the present moment, all are very responsive to us. They are relationships which last across all our senses, across time, and continue to manifest into beauty with each moment of focus. That is the law of focus, that what is focused on, manifests in detail, subtlety, and beauty. So do our relationships always manifest in this manner. It is easier for the depressed person to come to their senses when they are in relationship with things which change when you change. For instance, when you feel sad suddenly, you have changed, and maybe your friend will notice that and change how they are. Or same with your friend, if they feel sad, and you notice it and change your tone of voice, and they brighten up, then that is a beautiful dance between you two. It's a relationship. Meditators develop relationships with their own minds, by spending a lot of time with them. Psychonauts develop relationships with reality in all sorts of different ways. And all these relationships manifest and continue to manifest. With every moment of focus, our dance becomes more and more beautiful. We are coming to our senses.
that's ironic. 
