How do you ask THE QUESTION?

[ethnosplendor]

Hi Everyone!

Over the years as I have met people I often wonder if they too share a similar interest in psychedelics or even in cannabis. When it comes to dating I have been unusually open about my interest in such things. An example would be that I meet someone who I am interested in romantically and over the course of our conversations, when they ask what I have been up to during the day,I honestly tell that I made the best brownies yet, ones that would blow your socks off :lol: !

I think this scares some people away though.... Am I being too honest too soon? Are other people so open about these psychedelics interests when they meet people who they are trying to friend, romantically or "platonically"? I'd appreciate all commentary, feedback, and opinions.

Thank you!

Ethno!

 

[ntwhtyouknw]

Me and my Girl have been together for a year as of last Thur. The first night I met her we talked all night and by the end of it there was actually little we hadn't discussed with each other. We got to know each other really fast and were both fascinated with each others ideas. We knew each other and were friends about two months before we became intimate, I find it best to take things slow if I'm seriously interested in a girl because rushing things will usually lead to an early demise IME. I'm really lucky to have met someone I could be myself around since day one and her be herself as well.

But that being said there's certainly no need to just lay ourselves out there the first moments of knowing someone were interested in, sometimes It's best to let someone get to know us for who we really are before we lay it all out there, that way they won't judge us to fast based on things that aren't who we really are deep down inside.

When it comes to dating I think most people keep a lot of reservations, and over time we really get to know one another.

You have to know when to hold them I guess.

 

[Gowpen]

I hide it like Pirate's treasure. I would like to initiate DMT chat with some people, but until I know them, that they respect my ideas, I do not even hint. IMO many people would pattern DMT with crack or worse if they do not understand the complexities of DMT culture.

In a nut shell, NO is my advice, :!: do not wear DMT as a badge to compensate or satisfy the ego.
DMT finds you. No need to sprook it to people who may judge you as a nutter or worse.

Sure, plant the seeds, examine the fruit, but DMT is only the finger that points, to me it is a conduit to expansion. There are a million conversations to have about DMT without mentioning DMT.
Just my humble opinion.:thumb_up:

Love and peas
G

 

[Guyomech]

With some people, I find it easy to bring it up. Maybe it's just a look in their eyes. Especially of it's someone who smokes weed- we stoners have myriad ways of signaling each other. And once you've broken that ice, bringing up the topic of psychedelics is easy.

But with some folks it's hard to tell. For instance, our toddler has been having playdates with the daughter of a couple we met at childbirth classes. Her dad seems like he might be a stoner- certainly has the energy. But bringing it up? Tough... It's a context where you really don't want to make a bad impression, especially in a small town like this one. And bringing up psychedlics? I just can't imagine it.

So, I think there are cases where you just know you are safe bringing it up. The rest of the time, you're better off mum.

 

[ethnosplendor]

I appreciate everyone's commentary. I think I am going to move from being so open to more "in the closet" about it. It certainly isn't everything that defines me yet it is something that means a lot of me and holds a special place in my heart. For this reason it might have more value to share with a significant other later on when the time is right. Unfortunately, main stream society just doesn't approve....

 

[WEM]

Usually I am pretty open about most things to my close friends, I don't outright tell anyone anything though. Most people know nothing of this part of my life, too judgmental as many have already stated.

There are a million conversations to have about DMT without mentioning DMT.

Gowpen - Agreed, it's interesting to think that a few of the people I've talked to about DMT that they were the ones to bring it up first.

No one that I've met in person has ever admitted to ever trying DMT (one thinks he might've smoked cannabis laced with DMT, but he's unsure), but a select few did mention an interest in trying if the opportunity presented itself. The majority of conversations with people in person don't get much more in depth than that, and even then it's rare that it's ever brought up to begin with.

 

[anrchy]

You should have a feel for what type of person they are before saying things that would obviously be frowned upon by someone who didn't agree with that lifestyle. You wouldn't ask a girl to be your girlfriend unless you knew a little about her and whether or not she liked you or not. So why wouldnt you treat other information the same?

It's not hard to figure out someone's opinion about drugs. It's a well known topic and everyone has some sort of opinion about it. Simply asking "what's your opinion about marijuana?" won't hint as to your own outlook on the subject and would be enough to know when choosing what you can and cannot say to this person.

It's not about honesty. It's about appropriate topics of conversation.

 

[Enoon]

well said anrchy, I agree.

Personally I don't like to bring this kind of thing up too early in a conversation unless it pops up by itself. If it's a platonic relationship sometimes I never brig it up. In the end I don't really need to endlessly talk about taking psychedelics... I don't need everyone to know either. I might indicate that I have tried certain things during the wilder years of me teens, to kind of see the reactions and depending on that steer the conversation towars or away from this kind of thing.

With a partner it's a bit different, obviously since I want my partner to respect my use and ideas about these substances. So once things get a little serious I breach the subject. Depending on the reaction I make my case... and then I try to be as honest and clear as possible. It's no fun being in a relationship in which this kind of respect and understanding does not exist.

 

[○]

I only talk about psychedelics and/or anything closely related with my "1" best friend, which has been there for nearly every experience, whether it been LSD, ketamine, mushrooms, dmt, etc. Then there's my girlfriend, which is an avid explorer. The bond we have as a couple is beyond words. We've done ayahuasca together many'a times and have seen into each other so much it's crazy....but extremely beautiful. Outside of that...my mouth doesn't wander too far.

I'd have to know someone for quite awhile, and of course have a feeling out process before I'd proceed with any sort of convo.