Are we responding to add something, to counter a point and show our own beliefs or are we doing it just to get that feeling of satisfaction of being right. When we start to look at why we respond the possibilities open up and we are able to come to terms with our own conditioned patterns. Did someone make you feel invalidated at an early stage in life and now that you can speak freely you need to regain what you missed out on? Maybe you were always told about how smart and creative you were and now there is a complex of humility. I feel The reason we are here is to learn and learning requires a stepping back from right and wrong and looking at things objectively and without bias. When we allow someones ideas to enter us free of the judgement filters we can gleam much into this persons world. Maybe instead of challenging them ask why? Why do you think this way? It can create a deep sense of compassion even if you totally disagree with the person, leaving you in a positive state to express why you believe something different.