Thanks Null, turns out there was a tidbit of information that wasn't shared until I asked a few more in-depth questions. It is indeed much more distant but it is still tearing apart my GF which in turn tears me apart.
First of all, my GF shared a bit more about the sexual abuse/rape that NH apparently went through as a child. Long story short, NH is still in contact with the man who abused/raped him, and receives the occasional lump sum of money that immediately gets blown on drugs, not baby Bella or CM. NH's foster parents are millionaires as his foster dad is some creepy child abusing big wig at the Dr. Pepper corporation. Also, I found out that NH apparently did get a job for a while (construction) but has already lost it in less than 3 months. Again, none of this money is shared with his baby or his prisoner...I mean his wife.
Moving onto the living situation. With receiving money from foster dad every once in a great while and a very temporary job, I guess CM's parents had set up some sort of rent agreement. I did not know that when I put up the last post. In my state, an eviction notice must be served and he will have 30 days to get out.
The divorce is still a sticky situation too because her family, as much as they hate NH, are extreme Christians who believe that divorce is the ultimate sin. Basically telling their own daughter that she made this bed, so she has to sleep in it forever. They are still pushing for NH to find his own place to live but are 100% dead set against divorce therefore indirectly condoning the abuse.
TBH, CM is not the sharpest tool in the shed, but she is a sweetheart who doesn't deserve any of this. It is for this reason that NH can so easily abuse her. She has no line of defense, mentally or physically, and her family won't even back her up. She is also worried that when/if the divorce goes through that there will be a vicious custody battle. NH doesn't care about the baby but is the type of person that would try and win a custody battle out of spite.
Obviously, I've thought that he would need to take a drug test and pass to even be considered as the full custody parent. But he messes with the harder drugs that are pretty much out of your system in less than a week which throws the, "he is junkie" argument out the window. I fear that joint custody would be even worse because she would never truly get away from him thus giving him what he wants:
Control.
First of all, my GF shared a bit more about the sexual abuse/rape that NH apparently went through as a child. Long story short, NH is still in contact with the man who abused/raped him, and receives the occasional lump sum of money that immediately gets blown on drugs, not baby Bella or CM. NH's foster parents are millionaires as his foster dad is some creepy child abusing big wig at the Dr. Pepper corporation. Also, I found out that NH apparently did get a job for a while (construction) but has already lost it in less than 3 months. Again, none of this money is shared with his baby or his prisoner...I mean his wife.
Moving onto the living situation. With receiving money from foster dad every once in a great while and a very temporary job, I guess CM's parents had set up some sort of rent agreement. I did not know that when I put up the last post. In my state, an eviction notice must be served and he will have 30 days to get out.
The divorce is still a sticky situation too because her family, as much as they hate NH, are extreme Christians who believe that divorce is the ultimate sin. Basically telling their own daughter that she made this bed, so she has to sleep in it forever. They are still pushing for NH to find his own place to live but are 100% dead set against divorce therefore indirectly condoning the abuse.
TBH, CM is not the sharpest tool in the shed, but she is a sweetheart who doesn't deserve any of this. It is for this reason that NH can so easily abuse her. She has no line of defense, mentally or physically, and her family won't even back her up. She is also worried that when/if the divorce goes through that there will be a vicious custody battle. NH doesn't care about the baby but is the type of person that would try and win a custody battle out of spite.
Obviously, I've thought that he would need to take a drug test and pass to even be considered as the full custody parent. But he messes with the harder drugs that are pretty much out of your system in less than a week which throws the, "he is junkie" argument out the window. I fear that joint custody would be even worse because she would never truly get away from him thus giving him what he wants:
Control.
