So my gf and i just split a couple days ago. It was just our time. No real issues. We have just learned what we were meant to learn from one another. This has been the most awesome breakup ever...
What is love? Love is just a feeling...it is not the basis for a relationship (although it is a requirement for one). I love many friends! Does that mean that i can't have sex with anyone else? NO. So then...if love is felt between all...what makes a relationship a relationship? It's a verbal agreement. Words are just the physical manifestation of the contract between souls, so as to set boundaries here within this dimension. If you don't say that you're "together" or "in a relationship"...well then...there is no agreement to not sleep with anyone. You have to label it...put words to it...in order for it to physically manifest and create an agreement.
So then what is the point to a relationship? A lesson. While this has been the calmest, most loving and caring break up i have ever heard of...it still does hurt. We are going to remain living together. We get along great. We compliment each other well...and quite honestly...we both like where we live. Just because we are physically out of this relationship doesn't mean we can't still love each other!!! I mean....i think that ideally...if two people really loved each other...the ending of their "relationship" could very well be the beginning of a much deeper relationship. I will always love this woman and think fondly of our time together...and not think "god i'm glad that's over" or "man...what a BLEEP she was".
This breakup has taught me more than i can put into words. We are both here to help the other heal. We're talking through things calmly...and as we do...things are making sense! We're seeing the beauty in our past together...and still looking forward to our future as friends. Yes...it still hurts...but something tells me that this is how break ups should go. We are focusing on the lessons we've learned with each other (we were together a little over 2 years). It's sooo much more meaningful like this. Focusing on the love and lessons instead of the hurt and pain. It's really powerful to be a part of this. I'm not saying we're the first to do this...but i've never heard of this. Our bond will be sooo much deeper now. It's just like death...on a less grandiose scale. "we" "died" but just like in physical death...death is merely the next birth! there is no separation...so there is no real "breaking up"...just an end to a verbal contract between her and i. there is no her nor is there a me...there only is. there is no separation. these words and terms and labels we put on things create the separation necessary to enforce the contract between 2 souls. now that "we" are over...our future together has just begun, only in a new light!
we broke up monday. last night...we cooked dinner together...sat down and ate and just talked. spent over 2 hours last night...just talking. well...plenty of crying but we spent the night bonding as friends now. cycled between talking about things in our past, present and future. it was a very healing night. we both got things off of our chests...both cried our eyes out to one another...both were their to help each other heal. it was beautiful...i feel so blessed to have been a part of her life...blessed to be a part of such a positive and healing "death"...and pray that our relationship matures into something so much more and so much deeper than ever before.
So again i ask? What is love? Love is a constant, if it's real. I still love her and always will. I've learned so much from her. I teach with words...so she can tell you what she's learned from me. She teaches by doing...by feeling...so i simply cannot put into words what i've learned from her...i simply hope that what i've learned from her begins to reflect through my words and actions from here out.
so here is to one of the best and biggest lessons of my life! looking forward to what we can learn from each other now! such an amazing experience.
thank you
What is love? Love is just a feeling...it is not the basis for a relationship (although it is a requirement for one). I love many friends! Does that mean that i can't have sex with anyone else? NO. So then...if love is felt between all...what makes a relationship a relationship? It's a verbal agreement. Words are just the physical manifestation of the contract between souls, so as to set boundaries here within this dimension. If you don't say that you're "together" or "in a relationship"...well then...there is no agreement to not sleep with anyone. You have to label it...put words to it...in order for it to physically manifest and create an agreement.
So then what is the point to a relationship? A lesson. While this has been the calmest, most loving and caring break up i have ever heard of...it still does hurt. We are going to remain living together. We get along great. We compliment each other well...and quite honestly...we both like where we live. Just because we are physically out of this relationship doesn't mean we can't still love each other!!! I mean....i think that ideally...if two people really loved each other...the ending of their "relationship" could very well be the beginning of a much deeper relationship. I will always love this woman and think fondly of our time together...and not think "god i'm glad that's over" or "man...what a BLEEP she was".
This breakup has taught me more than i can put into words. We are both here to help the other heal. We're talking through things calmly...and as we do...things are making sense! We're seeing the beauty in our past together...and still looking forward to our future as friends. Yes...it still hurts...but something tells me that this is how break ups should go. We are focusing on the lessons we've learned with each other (we were together a little over 2 years). It's sooo much more meaningful like this. Focusing on the love and lessons instead of the hurt and pain. It's really powerful to be a part of this. I'm not saying we're the first to do this...but i've never heard of this. Our bond will be sooo much deeper now. It's just like death...on a less grandiose scale. "we" "died" but just like in physical death...death is merely the next birth! there is no separation...so there is no real "breaking up"...just an end to a verbal contract between her and i. there is no her nor is there a me...there only is. there is no separation. these words and terms and labels we put on things create the separation necessary to enforce the contract between 2 souls. now that "we" are over...our future together has just begun, only in a new light!
we broke up monday. last night...we cooked dinner together...sat down and ate and just talked. spent over 2 hours last night...just talking. well...plenty of crying but we spent the night bonding as friends now. cycled between talking about things in our past, present and future. it was a very healing night. we both got things off of our chests...both cried our eyes out to one another...both were their to help each other heal. it was beautiful...i feel so blessed to have been a part of her life...blessed to be a part of such a positive and healing "death"...and pray that our relationship matures into something so much more and so much deeper than ever before.
So again i ask? What is love? Love is a constant, if it's real. I still love her and always will. I've learned so much from her. I teach with words...so she can tell you what she's learned from me. She teaches by doing...by feeling...so i simply cannot put into words what i've learned from her...i simply hope that what i've learned from her begins to reflect through my words and actions from here out.
so here is to one of the best and biggest lessons of my life! looking forward to what we can learn from each other now! such an amazing experience.
thank you
