What makes Sex good ?

[obliguhl]

It may sound like a weird question, but i don't get the concept of good and bad sex.

Some say that no sex is better than bad sex. That boggles my mind.

Does good sex depend on technique alone, or is it the enthusiasm behind it? Often i walk the streets and try to imagine having sex with a random girl and while her bodily features often seem rather appealing, there is something that tells me she would be horrible in bed. It's a vibe thing...but i have no idea if the actual sex would be bad if her technique was good.

Furthermore, what is there really to learn? It seems rather simple to me: Insert the penis into a females vagina or any other orifice for that matter. Is there anything else you can do? Perhaps move it sideways? Or do you have to touch the human body in a specific pattern to create arousal?

They say that some people are good in bed but that somehow assumes that there is a way to do it right.

Is there?

I've heard that oral sex performed on her is the prefered way to initiate penetrative sex...why don't people just perform oral sex until they climax?

 

[endlessness]

Sex is good when it flows.

There is no one way to make it because it´s not like a fixed ability a person has that can be used with all sorts of partners the same way. Each person likes to be touched in a different way, has a different timing and so on.

I think a person good in bed is one that tries to be attentive to this flow. Its sort of like when you play music with others, if you are just playing ´solo´, not paying attention to others, just wanting to do your thing, its not good, even if you know how to play some cool sounding riffs or whatever. Or if you´re out of rhythm. But if you are paying attention to the others, noticing what they are playing, getting into a ´conversation´ together, flowing in rhythm, then its great, its hard to even describe how great that feeling of flowing is.

Same with sex, its important to try noticing the body language, see what the person wants and how you feel, and find a way to unite both. And this comes with some practice I think, you can learn more and more how to synchronize, how to give and receive pleasure to the other in different ways, its not just learning one position or another, this is secondary I think.

 

[jamie]

probly love..

whatever that means to you.

 

[The Neural]

Very loaded questions. Still though, there is no "one" way to do it right. If X says that Y is good in bed, that means that Y prefers the sexual ways of X. That is easily understood if you think that one girl could say a guy was good in bed because he was gentle, soft, and slow. Another could easily say the same for a guy who was fast, rough, and dominant.
Another would say that a guy is good in bed because he made her finish. Another could potentially be masochistic in nature, and like the guy to never let her finish.

Totally subjective.

Find out what YOU like, and then a girl who likes what you like. That's a good recipe for "good" sex. I guess bad sex is when both parties are dissatisfied, or one of them.

 

[obliguhl]

I think a person good in bed is one that tries to be attentive to this flow. Its sort of like when you play music with others, if you are just playing ´solo´, not paying attention to others, just wanting to do your thing, its not good,

Ah! I had a similiar realisation while i could still dance - if you do not communicate with other dancers you are more a nuisance than anything and kinda selfish. I always had trouble opening up to other dancers though (concert setting).

Your post makes it much clearer...so it's basically about being empathic and attentive while at the same time being able to sink into the experience deeply? This would certainly be a mad skill to aquire.

How does it compare to a successful psychedelic experience? I mean, isn't it also very beneficial to be open to anything that happens and kinda attentive, while at the same time sinking deeper and deeper into the experience?

@The Neural

Find out what YOU like, and then a girl who likes what you like. That's a good recipe for "good" sex.

So you have to have a lot of sex before you can find the right partner? That's horrible

 

[SnozzleBerry]

Awareness
Communication
Empathy

Just keep the ACE in your hole

No need for lots of sex/partners...you can totally navigate all of that with the right partner.

 

[jamie]

"Insert the penis into a females vagina or any other orifice for that matter."

It's not that simple..but when you do it is not very complicated..your soul knows.

 

[jamie]

there is a BIG difference between having sex and making love. Having sex is like your penis sneezing in comparison.

 

[cyb]

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[Observant]

Is there anything else you can do?

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[voyaj]

A funny thing happened to me, recently. I moved back to a city I had lived in for about a decade. The first day I got back my roommates were telling me about how they went to a noise show and some people came back afterwards and some were doing it on K, in my room, really loudly.

Called this girl to see if she was still around. She is a spice elf, so we were talking about spice. Then she asked if I had a roommate by a specific name and then she told me she stayed in my room. She was that girl, haha! Now I want to ask her how it feels to do it on K? But I do not have the gumption. Anyone know what that is like? I heard one can barely feel their body?

 

[AfroHorror]

Funny thread.
You guys might like this video

Gotta break a sweat.

 

[RebornInSmoke]

umm... without going too in depth...

- erogenous zones
- pressure points
- teasing
- the sensuality of touch
- erotic whisperings
- love (big factor if not THE factor)
- foreplay
- technique
- compatability/chemistry with each other both mentally and physically/sexually
- comfort level around/with each other. for example me n my girlfriend are perfectly comfortable being naked around each other and also in general, just being around each other.
- there's also the psychological aspect. this sorta already ties in with the mental compatability/chemistry stuff as mentioned above.

that's just a very basic rundown.

the difference between good and bad sex? i've never had bad sex in my life. every grope, lick, suck & fuck has been epic
however i most definitely have THE best sex i've ever had in my life, with my girlfriend. and no, i'm not just saying that because she may see it (she's a nexian ),
it really is the best i've ever had. i can work myself up as much as possible n even add drugs into the mix for enhancement of orgasm...
nope.

no orgasm on my own could ever compare to those induced by and shared with the girl i love. and that word, that thing we know as 'love', has a huge role in that.

true, mad, deep, passionate, unconditional, love

namaste

 

[RebornInSmoke]

A funny thing happened to me, recently. I moved back to a city I had lived in for about a decade. The first day I got back my roommates were telling me about how they went to a noise show and some people came back afterwards and some were doing it on K, in my room, really loudly.

Called this girl to see if she was still around. She is a spice elf, so we were talking about spice. Then she asked if I had a roommate by a specific name and then she told me she stayed in my room. She was that girl, haha! Now I want to ask her how it feels to do it on K? But I do not have the gumption. Anyone know what that is like? I heard one can barely feel their body?

you should tell her you absolutely must find out, and that she needs to teach you

 

[hug46]

Is there anything else you can do?

Crystal mdma + 15ml ghb + sildenafil citrate

Trust me ... it's a game changer...

In what way? I am intrigued by this. In my limited experience i have found that decent communication and then a bit of practice with a partner is good. I think hollywood has more than likely put the kibosh on many a person"s confidence in the sack, it did me.
There was no soft focus love making marathons to ravel"s bolero for me, just condom neurosis and premature ejaculation, for the first 10 years.

 

[AlbertKLloyd]

It may sound like a weird question, but i don't get the concept of good and bad sex.

I think it might be based on a comparative scale... but bad sex isn't particularly enjoyable in my experience, weak orgasms and way less fun.

Some say that no sex is better than bad sex.

I'll agree to that.

Does good sex depend on technique alone, or is it the enthusiasm behind it?

Both and neither. It is more in the mind than the body.

Furthermore, what is there really to learn? It seems rather simple to me: Insert the penis into a females vagina or any other orifice for that matter. Is there anything else you can do? Perhaps move it sideways? Or do you have to touch the human body in a specific pattern to create arousal?

You can use mind energy intent to do things, not specific patterns or techniques per say, there are several different types of orgasms and strategies to achieve and even prolong them.

They say that some people are good in bed but that somehow assumes that there is a way to do it right.

I was with someone I didn't consider that good but who has been said by others to be the best they ever had. I think that it is subjective, someone you enjoy being with might not be enjoyable to someone else, it has a lot to do with the mind.

I've heard that oral sex performed on her is the prefered way to initiate penetrative sex...why don't people just perform oral sex until they climax?

They do...

 

[RebornInSmoke]

...when done right your face should look like a glazed donut.

...just sayin'

 

[Jin]

practice makes perfect:twisted:

 

[John Smith]

I've heard that oral sex performed on her is the prefered way to initiate penetrative sex...why don't people just perform oral sex until they climax?

They do...

That's funny... my ex used to say that oral prior to penetrative kinda de-sensitizes the latter experience. I guess it varies from person to person.

 

[soulfood]

Good sex to me is all about compaitability.

Some people like heavy metal and some people like smooth jazz. If a lead metal guitarist takes the reigns on your laid back slow grooves then... it's going to ruin your grooves!!!!

Just from the way I hear others talking about sex gives me a strong impression that others are looking for a completely different experience to fulfil what I would call good sex.

Good sex to me is a matter of shared taste and a big part of judging a good sexual partner is about judging a personality. I guess this is why people say sex is better when you're in love.