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Empathy...gift or curse?

Some do give everything they have that was thought important of what they have to give. Short of giving up, maybe they still will, but feel they get the message that it's of no importance to who they give it to. Also, if it's seen as any value it will just be taken from them, and will not in exchange get any improved health, improved diet, access, or reciprocal love and appreciation for having done so.

People die from falling behind without getting appreciation in this world if they cannot succeed in getting ahead or at least forward from how far behind they were put when labeled as burdens. Sometimes people who do not compete simply get trampled by narcissistic psychopaths. It's not very shrewd of a person to stay in a spirit of giving especially to an extent that is selfless. It could even be said that some are targets for thievery whether poor or broke or even financially rich, perhaps because of starting as spiritually wealthy amongst the wrong types of people. Some simply never get out of the predicaments they were wrongly placed into. And when that happens they can easily get referred to as expensive drains on financial resources and feeling too entitled for wanting a healthy breath of air and a bite of healthy food, or even something to smoke and bad food and even dangerous destructive addictive drugs and the use of them.

I can only think of better sexual planning as a larger chunk of the alleviation and medicinal answer. People should not be trying to get their touchdowns by sacrificing yet another mind, body, spirit and life to get over the goal line for the remainder of needs and wants, and should not be trying to fulfill the remainder of them with new life that only has a competitive gambling chance of succeeding. Amongst much of the baby booming, it's been the kids that provided the free love at too much expense to themselves and their own freedom while many parents just ongoingly try to praise themselves and look sufficient. The children always start as innocent. Then accountability becomes too easy to dodge once misery loves company that sponges up guilt.
 
yatyas314 said:
Do you ever feel that sometimes your ability to take in others emotion or pain and metabolise it has left you rundown and exhausted? but not that you feel used more like thats what you were created for?
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To me that's the ironic part. In public I'm super social meeting strangers everyday. You'd assume I'm always surrounded by ppl with tons of friends. But honestly it drains me so I need a certain amount of time to recharge. In my youth If i knew a person was an emotional leech I had enough energy to deal with it. These days I can't even fake it. But I believe I've built an armor against low vibrational ppl. So they can feel the vibe that I can see right through them
 
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An equally good side of the family at the very least.
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A real feast rising with yeast in the Northeast.
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Cheats can retreat from what completes.

Yea, I think humor and fun is sometimes emanating outwards from the surface
while misery doesn't always like company
as opposed to when people want others to be their @$$ rag for relief.
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Bugs Bunny, Porky Pig, Daffy Duck.

Rabbit hole, waving my dick in the wind at some police officers being in the wrong line of work,
and those who like to play doctor incorrectly.
And can they dissect me?
Why the penny?
My thoughts.
How high I got.
I'll say goodbye to what I bought,
and I'm not for sale as their shot.
Pay the bail, got caught.
Connected, but where's the dots?
There's the chair. Nice chops.
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M.C. Hammer. Can't touch this Pops.
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My Libido and the mosquitos I SWAT.
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The team would be seemingly illegal,
an eagle, a hawk,
an ill hippy or an owl or even the hippity hop of a frog.
Whatever it is I'll forever subscribe to it's blog.
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What is something in a hog?
Sometimes we all can be a slob.
S.O.B.
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Believing that so evenly the facts are odd.
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Blossom with awesome paws.
See the laws. Claws.
MeoW with gunshot wounds and just gauze.
Just cause,
because justice and just ice is what was.
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I feel empathy yields higher understanding of yourself and the world around you and I think there is a lot of wisdom in that well. To see someone else struggle in any way and to truly understand what they are feeling is a doorway to possible connection that cannot be seen in any other way. I don't think it is ever a curse to feel in this way. Empathy in my mind is love in a pure form. It can hit you here and there or you can choose to live an empathic life and perhaps attempt to ease the suffering of others, not for gain or profit or anything else like that but simply because you understand and wish to help.

Empathy can take some energy away from you. I think enable to wield it you must have some extra energy left over for others. In that sense it could be a burden, so you would need to take good care of yourself first. A little practice and that burden can be overcome. I like to think that there is a endless well of energy for those who become healers, someplace you dig it up deep within and give it to someone else. Those people have always been my heroes. Any one who lives an empathic life in general has my respect.
 
premeditated said:
We need narcissistic people to run companies.
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I wanted to say something about this separately.

We do not need narcissistic people. I feel truly sorry for anyone that lacks empathy. Some are wired this way, they are the psychopaths that run havoc in this world and we do not need that at all whatsoever.

When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.

This sentiment has been written many ways by many people. We struggle with selecting good leaders, maybe fall into indifference, give into manipulations or are lulled into acquiescence.

There are true empathic leaders out there. I think enable to be an effective leader you must have empathy, it is a trademark. Yes, some companies and corporations are run by some shady folks but there are some that are run by some remarkably empathetic people as well.
 
Tripolation said:
I wanted to say something about this separately.

We do not need narcissistic people. I feel truly sorry for anyone that lacks empathy. Some are wired this way, they are the psychopaths that run havoc in this world and we do not need that at all whatsoever.

When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.

This sentiment has been written many ways by many people. We struggle with selecting good leaders, maybe fall into indifference, give into manipulations or are lulled into acquiescence.

There are true empathic leaders out there. I think enable to be an effective leader you must have empathy, it is a trademark. Yes, some companies and corporations are run by some shady folks but there are some that are run by some remarkably empathetic people as well.
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I strongly agree with everything you said.
In leadership, there are several well known leadership styles that have been around for a long time: autocratic, laissez-faire, and democratic.
But there are also two more modern models: transformational and transactional leadership.

What you described aligns with the transformational leadership style, which I personally sympathize with a lot.
This style enables growth for everyone involved in the group.
And as each individual grows, the whole group and the leader grow as well.

The flip side is when certain individuals try to diminish the value of others in the group just to feel better about themselves.
This usually stems from insecurity and fear, and it comes at the expense of the group’s overall well-being.
In my opinion, that’s not a leadership style at all.

However, this shouldn't be confused with transactional leadership, where underperformance is penalized and good performance is rewarded.
There are certainly situations where transactional leadership is necessary, but it shouldn’t be the default, at least in my view.
 
LuxObscura said:
However, this shouldn't be confused with transactional leadership, where underperformance is penalized and good performance is rewarded.
There are certainly situations where transactional leadership is necessary, but it shouldn’t be the default, at least in my view.
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And performance is just one of many possible factors which could be significant for evaluation processes.
 
Tripolation said:
I wanted to say something about this separately.

We do not need narcissistic people. I feel truly sorry for anyone that lacks empathy. Some are wired this way, they are the psychopaths that run havoc in this world and we do not need that at all whatsoever.

When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.

This sentiment has been written many ways by many people. We struggle with selecting good leaders, maybe fall into indifference, give into manipulations or are lulled into acquiescence.

There are true empathic leaders out there. I think enable to be an effective leader you must have empathy, it is a trademark. Yes, some companies and corporations are run by some shady folks but there are some that are run by some remarkably empathetic people as well.
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Thank you for correcting my statement and enlightening me. I may have used the wrong words I'm just saying unfortunately there is a place for those individuals.

If i go through life and meet a 100 people...the 1 i meet that I know is truly empathetic makes my 🌎
 
Transform said:
Well, you did say you had a complex relationship with humour… maybe you're not the only one.
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Didn't know where else to put it...I was thinking engaging in a conversation about empathy for humor and fun.....serious conversation but not too deep and serious ya know?? most threads on here about psychology and life kinda intimidate me bc I'm not a wordsmith with a keyboard. In person I can show a zebra how to wear stripes 😆 🤣
 
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B in go.

I figure if I keyboard warrior properly, in addition to any momentary adopted personas, I can have it understood what BoundAries should be and therefor further ego dissolution will not necessarily be necessary to be my true self with other true selves, and no more trouble will be had, creativity can be done gladly, and the wheel will spin being glad to be had. That shouldn't be bad. See Chad? Ask the real Karen what the LD50 is of a DaD? And why was MoM MADD? Seasonal Affective Disorder and an acid TAB. Slam a Dunkin' Disorderly. Do nuts.

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I believe the reason to continue with empathy is quite simple. We are one. To lose empathy for all others is to lose empathy for yourself.

It's supposed to be difficult. Don't quit.
 
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