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Secret love affair with psychedelics...?

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tikitony66

tikitony66

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Hi...

Strange question but does anyone here use psychedelics without their partner knowing about it? Basically my partner has a very negative view of any type of drug due to an ex-partner abusing them, which is a shame but I do understand where she is coming from.

She knows I responsibly take drugs now and again and is ok that I do that with friends when she is not around, but has stated that she simply doesn't want to know about it. I am slightly concerned that if I pursue a journey further into psychedelics with friends (or on my own), albeit just now and again, but am not ever able to tell her anything about it as it would upset her, that it may put distance between us.

Is anyone else in a situation similar to this and it works ok?

Thank you
 
I am in a similar situation. I may go more in depth later.

Anytime people aren't able to fully express themselves to a significant other, it can create distance. In that regard, it is never ideal. At the same time, it is not always possible for people to fully understand one another, so full and bold disclosure is not always possible.

In the end it comes down to what your goals are in your psychedelic experiences and in your relationships. For me, psychedelics are a very personal thing that I do for personal growth. While I believe "hiding" (or more accurately not discussing) this aspect may create distance, my psychedelic experience has taught me a great deal that has allowed me to be closer with my significant other. So ultimately, I believe our relationship is better and I feel closer to her due to what I've learned.

Hopefully someday I will find a way to make this all clear, but for now I do not see personal growth from responsible use as a net negative in how close you may become with your SO.
 
Shamun said:
I am in a similar situation. I may go more in depth later.

Anytime people aren't able to fully express themselves to a significant other, it can create distance. In that regard, it is never ideal. At the same time, it is not always possible for people to fully understand one another, so full and bold disclosure is not always possible.

In the end it comes down to what your goals are in your psychedelic experiences and in your relationships. For me, psychedelics are a very personal thing that I do for personal growth. While I believe "hiding" (or more accurately not discussing) this aspect may create distance, my psychedelic experience has taught me a great deal that has allowed me to be closer with my significant other. So ultimately, I believe our relationship is better and I feel closer to her due to what I've learned.

Hopefully someday I will find a way to make this all clear, but for now I do not see personal growth from responsible use as a net negative in how close you may become with your SO.
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That is a very straightforward and reassuring way to look at it. Thanks very much for taking the time to answer!
 
My wife was raised very anti drug. She was raised under the mentality that booze and cigarettes where ok, but drugs were taboo.

She hard a hard time accepting my cannabis use, and compared it to alcohol at first, but she has changed her view on that.

She was terrified of me doing psychedelics (even though I had done them before), but eventually she became ok for me to microdose for my depression.

Eventually she tried mushrooms, and that led to three mushroom trips so far. She had a wonderful time.

She attempted DMT once, but she couldn't handle the smoke.

In any case, this took a lot of work and communication from both parts. I appreciate the eventual open mindness, and now I always let her know when I take a psychedelic.
 
Shamun said:
I am in a similar situation. I may go more in depth later.

Anytime people aren't able to fully express themselves to a significant other, it can create distance. In that regard, it is never ideal. At the same time, it is not always possible for people to fully understand one another, so full and bold disclosure is not always possible.

In the end it comes down to what your goals are in your psychedelic experiences and in your relationships. For me, psychedelics are a very personal thing that I do for personal growth. While I believe "hiding" (or more accurately not discussing) this aspect may create distance, my psychedelic experience has taught me a great deal that has allowed me to be closer with my significant other. So ultimately, I believe our relationship is better and I feel closer to her due to what I've learned.

Hopefully someday I will find a way to make this all clear, but for now I do not see personal growth from responsible use as a net negative in how close you may become with your SO.
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I second this. :thumb_up:
 
Keeping my drug use a secret has damaged relationships in the past. I keep nothing from my wife. Even though she is a tea-total-er she is understanding and accepts it as normal and fine for me. I highly advise to at least make it known what you are up to and agree on what level of discussion.

The bigger issue for me is that we never disclosed anything to my children. Who we raised on a farm with animals and home schooled. I built a Mt Bike Park on the farm and converted a tobacco barn into a bicycle building and club house for the riders. When my daughter was about 14 she asked me why she saw little lights on our faces down at the club house. At some point I came clean and told her that the bikers and I were passing a bowl. They made a point of not coming down, except to eat BBQ.

Fast Forward 10 years and my adult sons were living with us when I made the choice to produce and use DMT. And I asked my 30 yo to Trip Sit me for my sessions. He never did understand and I think it strained the situation. He moved out.
 
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