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elru

elru

Rising Star
OG Pioneer
I don't feel comfortable in chat so much anymore. There are too many people who I don't recognize, who never speak, or who when they do talk they act sketchy or like trolls. Maybe this is just paranoia and I should shut up but it is how I feel and I know that I am not the only person who is feeling uncomfortable. I love the friends I've met through the nexus and it makes me sad that I feel this way. I feel so sad when a new person comes and I talk to them and a few days later it turns out they were just a troll.

I was told that someone tried making a 3rd chat that was just for full members and was automatically joined but that people said it was elitist so they stopped. When was that? I am on the nexus almost daily and I don't think I ever saw that, but I would have supported it. Maybe that is elitist but right now I feel less and less comfortable talking about personal things in the chat. Even though the nexus is secure, the attacks showed me that this site is not viewed positively by everyone and that some people are willing to put effort into causing serious problems. Even though that info on the anon site was from a while ago it is still disturbing.

I know the site is getting bigger and we will have more members. I am glad for that but I really miss the closeness of the group chat.
 
I hope you don't consider me part of the problem :) You can make your own chatrooms I think. I don't remember the exact command but it's like "/New Chat (name of chat)" then you can invite as many people as you want.
 
caht generally makes me feel like that. Often it is best to just remember that it IS the internet and you should try avoid saying anything you might regret later even though you are most likely among friends here.

I find forums much more comfortable anyway.

Keep well
 
Hey elru,

The chat is mostly like a pub: The gathering of friends in a nice place where occasionally a new face walks in.

Sometimes that new faces turn out to be a nitwit but many times that new face becomes a valuable addition. In the chat we find out about new people rather quickly. Sometimes it's hard to get a pulse on new members and sometimes you know they will be trouble or... great people, just like you are.

With the chat we have some bad times and also some good times, most is neutral to say so. Remember that new faces are important to keep the ideas floating in all directions.

Lets see how this will settle for you and if we can make the chat even better.


Kind regards,

The Traveler
 
aye i feel ya to i am very new to this site so i am very new to the chat, i can relate to you
much love to elru and the peoples of the world
peace
 
I think part of the problem is that when someone new comes to the nexus or to the chat that we have a certain idiosyncratic way of carrying and expressing ourselves. Even though there are many different personalities, certain ways of talking won't get you very far. Sometimes it's not that these are "bad" or misbehaved individuals so much as that they simply need to acclimate. If someone says something you don't agree with, politely dissent. Let them know why you think what they said or how they said it might not be appropriate. If you think someone is wrong or out of line or anything, chances are that others are picking up on this too, so usually at least somebody else will have your back. This is not to say you should be condescending to these people, but if you disagree with anything, I think you should let it be known, otherwise the problem will most likely be exacerbated and the negative behavior will be reinforced. At least that's my philosophy.
 
Lol this forum has a chat!!!!

I mainly come on here from my cell... So that's probably why I haven't noticed it. That and I haven't been promoted yet so lately I haven't been coming on cause I can't post in the proper sections... But that's probably because I haven't posted in the about me part and probably never will as I am not a fictional character and really ultimately I left my past in the past and am still trying to figure out who I am :)
 
Yeah there is a chat that you can get to by clicking the link at the top of the forum. It's a pretty good way for people to get to know you for getting promoted also. :)
 
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