Teach a piece of hard fakt about life.

[jyllando]

I been seeing a girl whos alot younger then me but I reconice myself in her and want her to learn a very important lesson because I see her future of hardship with her people pleasing I like to learn her one last lession before I continue on my own journey hoping I do something good.

I she brighten my view on humanity and thats why I want to go out of my way and risk puting something terrible on my councines but I know she is going to fall into the trap of trusting all unfortunet people who needs help but dont want it.

Im gona disregard my own pull of people and lovers, I want to show her how afull people can be aginst someone whose so cheerful and happy but never done any inner work. I want her to start this journey without causing to mush damage.

I have to be so mean to her and put her in a very weakend state of mind wish is gona feel awful but I want to learn her a lesson that Im working on myself for a long time but I need to scare her and throw her out in my neigbourhood wish is a bit of a bad place but shes going to se this reality soon anyway if shes on the path that shes on. Its a risk but im willing to take it for kind people even if I em not the right man for her.

So im confident that I can follow her and stop her from geting really Hurt in this lesson. This will not benefit me at anyway because I need too back away from her after this but its a hard valueble lesson to learn thats why its sucha extreme approche. She is going to be used by what she think is her freinds time and time agian, so I want to learn her to say no.

Secound lesson she needs to learn is to never feel shame of telling the truth to the ones that mather the ones who care about her.

Am I crazy too think this is good thing I want to learn her and for the moment be awful and put her in a state of true dout that could leave her very wounded but she have no idé who she is and what she pulls to her.

Narsissits are going to use her but can I guide her a little bit in thanks for that she has show me a little bit of that happy little baby inside who really wanted her real Mother to love her when she was growing up. Im her counter because I had a alkoholic narcisistic father who wasent their that mush but when he was he made it worse for me.

So thoughts crazy or not?

 

[CosmicRiver]

whatever you want to do, don't do it. you don't know her, what she thinks, what she needs. you're just projecting yourself onto her. you will harm an innocent person for no reason other than a mindtrip of yours. if you want to do something, just talk to her and explain, without scaring her.

 

[610nanometres]

I'd agree with cosmic. Seems like your plan is to cause her unnecessary pain, and show her people can be arseholes, by being something of one yourself, but only a little bit?
Does not sound like a good plan to me, mate. How about try showing her that people can be amazing, loving, caring, protecting and empathic, but warning her that this may not always be the case, helping her spot and avoid behaviour like this, whilst empowering her.
Hurting anybody to try and teach them a lesson, no matter how good you believe your intentions to be, sounds like a pretty counter-productive technique.

 

[MAGMA17]

Who do you think you are? Life itself will teach her the lessons that need to be taught. You don't know anything.
If you do it, you make a very big mistake. Not only for her, but also for yourself. Something unpredictable can happen and you could ruin her life and yours. Just remember that you don't know anything...

 

[Nydex]

This holier than thou approach will get you nowhere good in life, that's one thing I can basically guarantee.

Im working on myself for a long time

From what I've read in your post, you have a lot more work to do.

Please don't "teach" this woman anything and let life do its thing. This type of lesson is learned best when life forces you to learn it, not when someone else tells you about it. Until one has tripped and fallen, they don't start paying attention to where they walk.

Narsissits are going to use her

Far be it for me to be an armchair psychologist, but I hope you can appreciate how this looks from the reader's perspective. At least from mine, it looks like another narcissistic person is planning to abuse her to validate his own twisted view of life and the lessons it teaches.

I'm not strictly saying this is your intention, I'm just pointing out how it looks from the side.

Please, think carefully before you do anything.

 

[Koduckushi]

Yeah, this is a terrible idea... I don't see how this ends well. The lesson you're trying to impart will not be the lesson she learns.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

 

[ermit]

Your post can be read as plainly manipulative and toxic. Sorry for being a bit direct, as it may not be your initial intentions. Please reconsider.

 

[jyllando]

Well I did relize this was a very dark and terrible idé.

 

[jyllando]

Well I did relize this was a very dark and terrible idé.

Sorry everyone

 

[jyllando]

I thought about just distance myself and telling her to call if she gets in real trouble,

 

[610nanometres]

Well I did relize this was a very dark and terrible idé.

That is good to hear. Glad you won't be going ahead with your lesson.
If you have something good going with this lady, I don't see why you feel you need to step away. Surely carrying on, supporting her and allowing things to come to a natural end would be preferable to ending things out of the blue and causing her emotional pain?

 

[🌺🔥🫧]

I been seeing a girl whos alot younger then me but I reconice myself in her and want her to learn a very important lesson because I see her future of hardship with her people pleasing I like to learn her one last lession before I continue on my own journey hoping I do something good.

I she brighten my view on humanity and thats why I want to go out of my way and risk puting something terrible on my councines but I know she is going to fall into the trap of trusting all unfortunet people who needs help but dont want it.

Im gona disregard my own pull of people and lovers, I want to show her how afull people can be aginst someone whose so cheerful and happy but never done any inner work. I want her to start this journey without causing to mush damage.

I have to be so mean to her and put her in a very weakend state of mind wish is gona feel awful but I want to learn her a lesson that Im working on myself for a long time but I need to scare her and throw her out in my neigbourhood wish is a bit of a bad place but shes going to se this reality soon anyway if shes on the path that shes on. Its a risk but im willing to take it for kind people even if I em not the right man for her.

So im confident that I can follow her and stop her from geting really Hurt in this lesson. This will not benefit me at anyway because I need too back away from her after this but its a hard valueble lesson to learn thats why its sucha extreme approche. She is going to be used by what she think is her freinds time and time agian, so I want to learn her to say no.

Secound lesson she needs to learn is to never feel shame of telling the truth to the ones that mather the ones who care about her.

Am I crazy too think this is good thing I want to learn her and for the moment be awful and put her in a state of true dout that could leave her very wounded but she have no idé who she is and what she pulls to her.

Narsissits are going to use her but can I guide her a little bit in thanks for that she has show me a little bit of that happy little baby inside who really wanted her real Mother to love her when she was growing up. Im her counter because I had a alkoholic narcisistic father who wasent their that mush but when he was he made it worse for me.

So thoughts crazy or not?

It's beautiful to see how you care for her wellbeing in this way, and thank you for bringing this up here with us. I appreciate it

But I read your message, and all I have to say is, please, do NOT do it via these methods. There are alternative ways.

For instance, you could ask her for a moment to sincerely tell her something~ and then really say what has been on your mind. If you really care, it will come through.

Additionally, she is on her own path, and so are you. You wouldn't want other people trying to control your path like that I don't think. Better is if you let her go her own way into this wild life with the message that, even post break up, you are always available to text if she finds herself in an emergency situation or crisis ~ that can go a long way and is a beautiful thing to do.

Wishing you and her all the best !!

 

[Voidmatrix]

You've already apologized, but since you want to teach this girl a hard lesson, I have one for you.

You're the narcissist in this situation. Who are you to determine when and how someone learns something and whether they need to learn in at all? You may feel you have her best interest at heart, but you're only thinking of yourself predicated on your own perspective and experience of the world.

She may need to learn what you say, but at the end of the day we all walk our paths through life. She'll learn her lessons on her time, not yours. The most you can do is to help her see points you'd like to make, but other than that this is cruel and manipulative. You can lead a horse to water, but you're actually trying to force it to drink which is asinine.

What you also seemed to have neglected is that while you think you can protect her physically from a potential dangerous situation that you're putting her in, what if your "lessons" don't take and she has a traumatic response? At this point all you've done is more damage and have effectively curtailed her growth and progress in doing so.

Sounds like you have some things to learn. Focus on you right now.

One love

 

[rkba]

True tough love, deep from the Voids of the Matrix.

Behind words we meet and see for what we are.

 

[acacian]

@Voidmatrix summed it up well. Why are you viewing this person’s growth like it has to suit your own timeline.. it’s absurd and REALLY selfish. This is about the most selfish and irresponsible thing you can do to someone who is less experienced than you. For Christ’s sake.. let them learn the world.. this is the definition of narcissism and the sort of stuff cults arise from..

Please do not go ahead with this.. you’re going to fuck this girl up and not achieve any of the things you set out to do. She deserves to learn life at her own pace.

 

[610nanometres]

You've already apologized, but since you want to teach this girl a hard lesson, I have one for you.

You're the narcissist in this situation. Who are you to determine when and how someone learns something and whether they need to learn in at all? You may feel you have her best interest at heart, but you're only thinking of yourself predicated on your own perspective and experience of the world.

She may need to learn what you say, but at the end of the day we all walk our paths through life. She'll learn her lessons on her time, not yours. The most you can do is to help her see points you'd like to make, but other than that this is cruel and manipulative. You can lead a horse to water, but you're actually trying to force it to drink which is asinine.

What you also seemed to have neglected is that while you think you can protect her physically from a potential dangerous situation that you're putting her in, what if your "lessons" don't take and she has a traumatic response? At this point all you've done is more damage and have effectively curtailed her growth and progress in doing so.

Sounds like you have some things to learn. Focus on you right now.

One love

Except he already said he has seen the error of his idea. Seems a bit harsh for everyone to be jumping in on him like this when he has apologised and said he's not going to go ahead.
He had a bad idea, asked for some advice, took the advice and is still being harshly judged. Where's the love?

 

[Nydex]

Except he already said he has seen the error of his idea. Seems a bit harsh for everyone to be jumping in on him like this when he has apologised and said he's not going to go ahead.
He had a bad idea, asked for some advice, took the advice and is still being harshly judged. Where's the love?

I think saying he had a "bad" idea is underappreciating the potential for irreverisble, life-altering trauma that his idea might have induced. In many similar cases he would've been banned from the forum as well, but in this particular case he has been given a chance to learn from his mistake and remain a part of this community. I think hammering in the advice with a bit more fortitude won't do any harm.

Water under the bridge now, I hope.

 

[Ozzy_Chronik]

I been seeing a girl whos alot younger then me but I reconice myself in her and want her to learn a very important lesson because I see her future of hardship with her people pleasing I like to learn her one last lession before I continue on my own journey hoping I do something good.

I she brighten my view on humanity and thats why I want to go out of my way and risk puting something terrible on my councines but I know she is going to fall into the trap of trusting all unfortunet people who needs help but dont want it.

Im gona disregard my own pull of people and lovers, I want to show her how afull people can be aginst someone whose so cheerful and happy but never done any inner work. I want her to start this journey without causing to mush damage.

I have to be so mean to her and put her in a very weakend state of mind wish is gona feel awful but I want to learn her a lesson that Im working on myself for a long time but I need to scare her and throw her out in my neigbourhood wish is a bit of a bad place but shes going to se this reality soon anyway if shes on the path that shes on. Its a risk but im willing to take it for kind people even if I em not the right man for her.

So im confident that I can follow her and stop her from geting really Hurt in this lesson. This will not benefit me at anyway because I need too back away from her after this but its a hard valueble lesson to learn thats why its sucha extreme approche. She is going to be used by what she think is her freinds time and time agian, so I want to learn her to say no.

Secound lesson she needs to learn is to never feel shame of telling the truth to the ones that mather the ones who care about her.

Am I crazy too think this is good thing I want to learn her and for the moment be awful and put her in a state of true dout that could leave her very wounded but she have no idé who she is and what she pulls to her.

Narsissits are going to use her but can I guide her a little bit in thanks for that she has show me a little bit of that happy little baby inside who really wanted her real Mother to love her when she was growing up. Im her counter because I had a alkoholic narcisistic father who wasent their that mush but when he was he made it worse for me.

So thoughts crazy or not?

Nexus won't allow me to say what I want to say so I'm just going to say don't do it.

I don't like you.

 

[610nanometres]

Nexus won't allow me to say what I want to say so I'm just going to say don't do it.

I don't like you.

There is a really unpleasant undercurrent of judgement in this thread. The guy came up with a stupid idea. He asked for advice, he listened, reflected, has seen his error, apologised and has said he isn't going to go ahead with his foolish idea. To keep attacking him after this seems vindictive. Maybe he isn't the only one who needs to look at themselves.

 

[Ozzy_Chronik]

There is a really unpleasant undercurrent of judgement in this thread. The guy came up with a stupid idea. He asked for advice, he listened, reflected, has seen his error, apologised and has said he isn't going to go ahead with his foolish idea. To keep attacking him after this seems vindictive. Maybe he isn't the only one who needs to look at themselves.

Anyone that considers playing with the mind of a young female like that looses points in my book.
I couldn't care less if he repent, his thoughts concocted the mess in the first place. It's easy to back down and repent when the room is staring at you with angry eyes.

If a pedophile says he won't do it again will you break bread with him?

Pfft