Just need some advice.....

[3rdeyeopen]

Hello! I haven't been on the forum for a few months. I'm just looking for some unbiased advice and thought this would be the place to get it.

The love of my life recently broke our relationship off and informed me he is no longer in love with me but he still "loves" me. We had been together for four years and I still believe he was and is THE ONE, my soul mate, the love of my life and...I think you get the point lol. Anyhow, he discovered DMT while we were together and started his journeys while I watched from the sidelines. I finally decided after a time to take the plunge and try it myself. I had a few very spiritual trips while I was with him. (I had never even heard of it till he started getting interested in trying it himself)

We have been apart now for about two months. We still talk occasionally. He is the only one I know who does DMT and he recently made his own. He is also the only person I feel comfortable doing it with. I really feel like I want to take a journey. I feel like as lost as I am right now it might do some good and help put me in better place mentally. However, I have heard people on this forum advising people who are depressed to stay away from the spice. My question is this - Is it a good idea for me to go to his house and have a session? Would it be a really bad idea? I'm just not sure and I am torn between thinking it would be the right thing to do or not.

I feel like the DMT might help me and I really need to start the healing process, but that's impossible to do without letting go and I'm not sure if I will ever be able to do that.

Anyways, I'm sorry if this is a ridiculous post about my love life , but I just need some advice. Any and all of it is much appreciated!

Thank you for reading and thanks for any reply's. :? :? :? :?

 

[Riley2MR2]

He is the only one I know who does DMT and he recently made his own. He is also the only person I feel comfortable doing it with.

Have you not spoken about this (DMT) with any other friends/loved ones? In not, why?

Since experiencing some beautiful things lately and discovering DMT, I have told people I feel are on the same wavelength as me all about it. I come across as honest and open as possible, give them all the 'facts' and let them make their own decision. Everyone I've mentioned it to think it sounds amazing and would love to experience it too. This includes people who do not regularly take drugs. I have advised that they do their own research and in a few weeks get back to me on how they feel about it all.

I can't give you any advice on what you should do regarding taking a trip at your ex's house but would say this; why not reach out and start to share this beautiful thing with the ones you love?

I read something on here that further cemented my belief in getting the word out about this; you either find DMT or DMT finds you.

 

[Guyomech]

You are talking about entering an emotional minefield and then taking a powerful psychedelic. That sounds frankly like a terrible, highly risky endeavor. Why put yourself in that position, when you admittedly haven't moved on from a broken relationship? It could be five minutes of emotional horror, stretched out to a point where time is meaningless. I don't mean to make it sound so terrible, because it could all be fine, but I'm of the opinion that it's WAY too early for you to be tripping with your ex. No offense.

If you're really feeling the calling to have a DMT experience, maybe you could find another way where he isn't in the picture. Try to get the emotional minefield out of the equation.

 

[3rdeyeopen]

Thank you both and no offense taken. I asked for advice and believe me I'm not the kind of person to be offended if its not what I want to hear.

I do not have a lot of experience with it as i have only done it 3-4 times so I have not had a bad experience and want to make sure I do not put myself in a position to have one.

Yes, I have talked to others about doing it but most people I know are scared of it or simply do not enjoy psychedelics the way my ex and I do. My brother has been taking trips every now and then so I think I'll ask him to sit with me while I journey. Mostly I'm not comfortable doing it by myself.

Again, thank you for the replies. I figured it was a bad idea but just really want to have another experience soon and wasn't sure how to go about it.

Edit: Just wanted to apologize for saying I didn't know anyone else who did it because for some reason I forgot about my brother.

 

[Guyomech]

That actually sounds like a perfect solution- a trusted family member.

It's normal to feel reluctant to go solo- I personally only do that with low doses. Even though there's very little that can go wrong, it's nice to have somebody there to take the pipe when you're finished so you don't have to enter hyperspace with a lingering worry: will I come out of the trip to find my room in flames? This is actually very unlikely, but you occasionally hear stories about pipes getting broken, which could potentially lead to injury.

Good luck and safe travels!

 

[3rdeyeopen]

Yes as much as I know I could do it by myself if I wanted, I still have a little anxiety about it. I don't have much experience with it yet, so having someone there makes me feel better at this time.

I would love to be able to go solo, as one person pm'd me, you are in hyperspace solo no matter who's there waiting for you to return. Maybe one day I will get myself to that point.

The Observer - unfortunately since I am a newbie I can't PM you back but I wanted to let you know I do appreciate the advice and vote of confidence.

This is a very spiritual tool for me and I really would love to be able to blast off when I feel the need without having to set it all up with someone else.

Thank you all again. It means a lot to me that you all take the time to answer my questions and give this newbie advice.

Peace, love and safe travels to you all.

 

[Jarl Von Hoother]

...I 'am sorry about your break up. It might take some time for himself to realize he was a complete jerk and count a week if not a month to give himself the space. It takes us men typically a few months to realize WE WERE THE ONES who screwed everything up. If he really loves you he wont be sincere about it all at first but, afterward he will have the first symptoms of 'kicking yourself in the ass' syndrome... followed by what recovering alcohalics call 'a moment of clairty' and he might rush toward your door with a bundle of terrible poetry or an unfinished painted canvas of himself flying with you.

but, if this is just about doing DMT than I suggest finding a routein where you can find the same amount of peace that you found with your ex. and not breaking into his house :lol:

Meditation prior to smoking helps...
Ohm-ing if you want to go that far even'
or simply making yourself comforatable the most sensual way you know how
take a nice bubble bath before hand? uhm
smoke some ganja, light incense
or just think about the ones you love.
Some times BF/GF's can really distract you from the world.
I personally believe our hearts break away... because
love pulls us SOO far from ourselves I mean we almost become the other person.

anyway everything will fall right back into place.
rest assured
JVH

 

[Jin]

If you're really feeling the calling to have a DMT experience, maybe you could find another way where he isn't in the picture. Try to get the emotional minefield out of the equation.

this seems like the best advice , infact since i got deep into psychadelics , i've not been in one relationship and am most happy about it , psychadelics have taken away all my need to associate , love anyone ever sexually , infact these days i am so full of love for everyone and everything , humans , plants , animals , i cannot even comprehend why people are in romantic relationships , i have so much love i can hardly limit myself and give it to one person , i love all the universe , ofcourse i live alone , have no sex , and lead a somewhat ascetic life for past 6 years ,

it hurts at first however as time goes by you'll realize that you are your own soulmate , no-one can love you the way you love yourself (i mean non-sexually ofcourse ) ,

to tell you the truth love is nothin but pain , i say good riddance to all that emotional rubbish , if you love happiness i suggest you forget all about love from human beings and cultivate pure love with plants , animals and nature , then you'll know what pure love is and it will never hurt

it hurt me so much at a point of time i have lost all courage to ever love a human again and even if for a moment i care , all i get is pain so i like happiness and thats why i advice you to become divine in your nature and forget this human drama , i myself have lost all ability to love a human being romantically anymore , its just too much


i know my advice is harsh , yet it shall only bring you happiness

 

[3rdeyeopen]

Yes, your post does seem harsh, yet it doesn't. As you said you were hurt badly. I completely understand and sympathize. I do certainly need to learn to love myself. That is a problem I have been unable to overcome my entire life.

I don't want to be alone but if I can't have my love I want no one else. So I will learn to be alone and hopefully one day love myself as much as I should.

I have done psychedelics many many times in my life. The dmt and mushrooms are the only ones I have had in the past 15 years or so. They both seem to bring me to a more peaceful place and bring the spirituality I have been seeking in my life. I feel like the dmt is something I really need at this point in my life. It makes my eyes open, my soul fly and my heart feel full.

I am truly sorry you were hurt so badly by a relationship. And yet I know how you feel. Thank you for the input and I wish you love and happiness in your life...single or not

 

[Sequence]

The first thing that came to my mind while reading your post is an old quote I once heard,

*If you love him, Let him go, If he comes back to you, He's yours forever, If he doesn't, It was never meant to be...*

Love overcomes many challenges and/or obstacle, as love itself is boundless. Ask your heart if he was truly the one, it will never lie. Trust your inner knowing to guide yourself throughout difficult experiences, as all shall pass.

 

[highRvibratoryfreq]

the words of kahlil gibran come to mind

'And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course'

and as much as i see this happen in love and relationships i see it in the most powerful of psychedelic experiences that being it comes to you, you dont go to it.

so.. if it all clicks into place and you end up at your ex's with a pipe in hand then i guess its the right thing to do, if your fighting or pushing to orchestrate these events then maybe its your ego trying to force these events which isnt the right way.

hope that helps

 

[3rdeyeopen]

The first thing that came to my mind while reading your post is an old quote I once heard,

*If you love him, Let him go, If he comes back to you, He's yours forever, If he doesn't, It was never meant to be...*

Yes I have actually been thinking along these lines myself. My heart really does tell me he is the one. I've though long and hard about this since our break. I firmly believe he and I were meant for each other.

"so.. if it all clicks into place and you end up at your ex's with a pipe in hand then i guess its the right thing to do, if your fighting or pushing to orchestrate these events then maybe its your ego trying to force these events which isnt the right way."

Yes I agree with this as well. I would never put either of us in a position to be fighting where dmt is involved.

Thank you so much for the input and Merry Christmas! Love to you all!