Why is it humiliating? It's not a personal attack or saying you are a bad person or anything. It's just about considering the possible consequences to one's actions.
If you extract in your mom's house, and for some reason it gets caught (say there's an uncontrolled accidental fire and fireman have to come in), she can lose the house, she will be the legally one to blame.
If you ask for dmt here, authorities can use it as an excuse to shut down the forum, to arrest the administrator (it has happened before with another forum where the administrator had never sold drugs but because peple sold drugs in the forum he was arrested).
And as for meet ups, well clearly it can also bring legal problems to you, or to whoever meets you. It would make "good" material for the news too: "drug forum users openly meeting up for manufacturing schedule 1 drugs". It can hurt the whole community.
Is it not reasonable that we don't want that? Nothing personal.
Do you have anything against oral use of DMT? It might be a simpler safer solution and it allows for a great experience.