I am in deep agreement with you. It seems like an exoteric tool to placate the masses, but esoterically has very little utility, for the ego is the aspect of self that cares there is a self, and thus is necessary in an incarnate existence.I'd remove the notion of ego altogether. It's a counterproductive way to put it. Rather, I'd call it personal work or work on yourself. Ego is just as loaded a concept as God.
We're all egoic, and that's how it should be. This is an important part of this incarnation. You live, learn, and adapt. Of course it's personal. We do it for ourselves first of all, because everyone wants to be happy.
I have no advice here and am just watching the process. Sometimes it's the best kind of relationship. We all want acknowledgment, and it should always start from within.
Some say we're living in an era when we need to marry back the feminine (indigenous culture) with the masculine (Western society). Whatever the case, our work remains the same. We uncover what's hidden and bring it back to light.
"One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.
The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular."
— Carl Jung, Alchemical Studies (Collected Works, Vol. 13)
Furthermore, there are many tools we use, but forget they're tools. For example, your metaphor of marrying indigenous with the industrial. I'm not sure gender has any role here either accept as a launching pad for understanding. It seems more like an expectation projected on reality rather than seeing reality as it may be.
However, this specific stance has been held for a while, shown here: Thread 'Obsolete Use of Sex and Gender in Esoterism?' Obsolete Use of Sex and Gender in Esoterism?
Time to guide.
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